Okay, where to begin? I just returned from Ukraine this weekend. Ukraine is like living on the polar ice cap during the winter.
I was not born yesterday, and I'm the type of guy that when something appears too good to be true, or seems too easy, I become very skeptical. I have read all the horror stories about women on Dream Marriage (DM) who scam guys, or not showing up when a guy travels to Ukraine to meet them. Yes, I'm sure those stories are true, and have happened. However, I think the DM website, and it's purpose, and obligations to it's members needs to be put in it's proper perspective here.
What is the purpose of DM? Yes, it is a business, and like all businesses it expects to make a profit. I have no problem with that. I do think DM sets themselves up for a lot of criticism by charging members for each letter they write, or video, chat, etc. DM is located in the U.S. and the women are located in Russia, and Ukraine. That translates to mean DM must partner with local businesses to produce these women. I don't object to that either as long as DM does their due diligence attempt to verify these women exist. I realize there are limitations on how DM can verify these women. If a woman lies, I can see where that can be a problem in the verification process. However, if a member pays for contact information, and the information is not correct, I feel DM should reimburse the member that fee if the member receives the wrong information.
I fully understood DM was only a medium to possibly meet a woman I would be interested in. I knew going in there are no guarantees. I only expected that I was dealing with a level playing field. I was also aware there would be women that are trying to scam guys on DM but you're going to find those type women wherever you go. If you are trying to meet women, it just goes with the territory.
Now for the guys that let the little head think for the big head, you are always going to have a problem. If any guy is stupid enough to think these women are going to jump into his arms, and go back to your hotel room when they first meet you, think again. If that is what you are thinking, then you deserve what you get. It all boils down to common sense, and whether you use it or not.
I am also sure that along with the women scammers, the women also get the real loser perverts that contact them on DM. So it works both ways.
The bottom line for me? I traveled to Ukraine. I met the woman I corresponded with. She was just as beautiful as her photos, and very nice. I enjoyed meeting her. We seemed to hit it off well. I am still communicating with her. Is the relationship going to continue? Time will only tell. However, DM met it's obligation to me. Whether a relationship with this woman develops, or not, is not the responsibility of DM. That is up to the people involved. DM did their part, which is all I can expect.