Annette M.

I was a member of this website, because I wanted to find out more about my role as a modern woman with teenage daughers.

It is always good to hear alternative opinions about things that we have been told at school or by our contemporaries, especially those things that are controversial.

However, after a couple of posts I made where I gave my bona fide opinion based on my own actual experiences breastfeeding and with my menses, I found my comments attracted no constructive comments at all. There were only hugely negative criticisms and in more than four cases outright abuse and name calling, even to the extent that some used foul language and claimed that I "must be a man " because I had "no idea what it means to be a woman".
After being very polite and responding with, quote, "I disagree. I am certainly female, as my husband, parents and friends would agree, and my opinions are, as I said, ones that come from my own experiences from puberty. I am saddened to learn that my comments were taken out of context and claimed to be bigoted and abusive to women in general."

After posting that, I learned that my profile had been put on hold indefinitely because of complaints by other members that I had been abusive and anti-female.

I don't see this as an indication that the web site is worth bothering about if you are interested in a forum to exchange views based on real life experiences and learn from others in an open and frank way without being confrontational.

A site with bullies who seem to see it as their life mission to obliterate all opposition to their opinions.

I am now 43 years old and have found other ways to exchange opinions in a most positive way; some ideas I had for a few decades I have set aside and hold others as more important now, with the proof being that they are good alternatives to my somewhat limited approach up till that point.

The web site baby-gaga.com isn't one that was at all helpful. I cannot recommend it to anybody unless they feel like being a victim of bullies. Why can't we just get along and accept that other people have different views instead of trying to wipe out all contrary opinions?

I visited the website thinking that it might be a good source of advice for non-surgical methods of enhancing or improving different areas. I found out that it was not a good source of information at all.

I then thought I would see what advice was given about something I knew about personally.

I have a good personal experience with a non-surgical method of breast enhancement that actually works: the Brava vacuum pump method (FDA approved).
I was interested to see that some had a question about that kind of method.

After seeing what advice was given and the language used, it soon became clear to me that the web site is not a reliable source of information that somebody can rely upon.

All the questions that were asked about ways that they can achieve better or larger breast shape that were not surgical were answered by people who are called doctors or surgeons. You might think that the advice was sound medical advice, but it was not.
Without question, all the questions were answered by negative comments. Those who mentioned the Brava system said it wasn't effective in the long term, or that it only gave an increase in one cup size, and that they only proven method was one that required somebody like them, surgical. I know from my own personal experience that both those answers were completely untrue, so it meant something to me. I posted a comment in the forum accordingly, in which I thought some information was wrong and my own reasons for saying so. That was a few months ago. Although my comment was approved and appeared on the site, it was removed within two weeks.

Any genuine questions regarding how a person can improve the look of themselves will always be told that there is only one proven way to do it, and that is the surgical method: implants, fat injection, etc.

Any question about non-surgical methods is met with negative criticism and a statement that there is only one way to do it, etc. etc.

Any comments that an alternative method works are removed.

I think you get the picture.

Even looking at some entries on the forum that are from people who need help - for example, surgical wounds opening up after a few days, etc - don't seem to get much help apart from the "moral support" from people who are non-medical and nothing much in the way of practical advice from the surgeons or doctors. That is despicable.

It is a way that plastic surgeons use to increase business for themselves, and one of the ways they do that is by criticizing any method of enhancement or body shape improvement that does not require a visit to a plastic surgeon.

I would be wary of any reviews that are carried out by plastic surgeons, cosmetic surgeons, or however they style themselves, because they are highly unlikely to be objective reviews.