My sister told me about this site and I've tried numerous times to sign up. Every time I tried to sign up 5 minutes later the site owners DELETED my screen name! I tried to log in with no success. I don't know what went on on this site but whatever it was for some reason I guess they do not want new members. I then signed up again to ask why I can't sign up for the site and 10 mins after I posted the question they blocked & deleted me.
Screw this site!
The people at Cafe Mom site found out about this site and are now posting positive reviews. lol nice try. Like the other reviews says, it is nothing but bullies and people looking for drama. They wait for you to post something negative so they can feed off of it. They get a thrill at bringing people down to their level. The ones that say they do not like drama, they LOVE it! They bark at you and when you bark back they act innocent, report you and call you bat sh!t crazy. Then they continue laughing about it and stalking you months after. Believe the positive reviews all you want, it's only to lure you in. You will be laughed at, stalked and bullied.
I have been with Cafemom since almost the start and while I didn't read every last review here I will say that you have to have thick skin to survive CM. Often times there is JR High Mentality (as with some of the reviews what are we 12?) It's an Adult board we need to remember to put on our big girl panties sometimes. I enjoy the brutal honesty and the general mayhem that happens. I Don't know some of these reviews are just as childish and petty as the things they are whining about.
Tip for consumers: Have thick Skin and wear big girl panties.Ask Silver about CafeMom
I got taunted and inboxed all the time by 2 members on this site. I won't say what I talked about on this site but it back fired and I had two people in my inbox calling me sl*t, idiot, who®e saying Why don't you just jump off a bridge? No one will miss you! They harassed me daily and when I begged the owners to delete my post and my account it took the 3 days to do it! I got so fed up with the harassment I crouched down in my closet with a razor to my wrist. My sister walked in and talked me out off it. I'm glad she did. After that my sister had to get on the owners butt about deleting my account. My account is deleted but my post is still there forever. I advice anyone not to go to this site, the members will push you over the edge with their cyber bullying. Now I know how Amanda Todd, Megan Meier and others felt.....
I love cafemom. Of course there are bullies and hateful $#*!es and profanity and drama. There's also a lot of love and kindness and support there, too. It's all entertaining, lol! You can't take things personally, it's just a website with a bunch of random women you'll probably never meet.
This site is not a place to share your private business. Even if you post as anonymous, they will find out who you are, stalk you, inbox you and even go as far as calling CPS on you (I've seen plenty of post about it!) If you post here be careful and do not put any personal info on this site.... especially if you vent about your husband, the members will take one sentence and run with it, calling your husband an @ss, a d!ck head, cheap & low life. Again do not post anything personal....it will come back to haunt you....beware!
I've been on CM since 2012. I've never changed my screen name. I've never had issues with bullying or stalking. I've never created drama or lied about my life, and my experience has been tremendously positive.
Here's the deal: there are all kinds of groups. Groups for all kinds of people. There are "support" groups, which are privately owned. Anyone can make a group, so if they want things managed a certain way, they can do that. If they want love and support and a bunch of yes-man crap, they can make that, or find it. There are a lot of groups that offer that sort of thing. I'm in one. If the pre-existing ones aren't cutting it, make Step-Moms United or Special Moms for Special Needs or Kumba-Freaking-Ya or whatever.
There are "b****" groups that are there for drama and entertainment. The biggest one is Mom Confessions, but there are many. These are not groups to look for support. People are a**h****. It's fun and funny, but if you're an a**h*** or an idiot under your screen name, people remember and catalog everything, and it will follow you. Is there bullying? Yeah. I guess. There are sh**** people everywhere. I've never had an issue, and I can be a real d*** sometimes, or say some pretty stupid things. Then again, I don't get my feelings hurt easily, and understand that it's all superficial b***sh** the majority of the time, anyway.
I've made some amazing friends on this site, that are on my Facebook and that plan group video chats, support the hell out of each other and me, and we've all talked about meeting, some of us have met and been part of each other's lives outside of the internet.
You get what you put out. Whine all you want, the site isn't going anywhere, and most of the people complaining are back under a new screen name, because no matter what they say in their exit post, they tend to come back once they realize that they aren't going to change the site. They need to learn that the universe doesn't cater to their whims, and if they want something specific, they need to go out and find it instead of changing what's working for the majority.
I've been on CafeMom for 9 years now, it has its good groups and it has its not so good groups.
I have found a couple of very good supportive groups, and then there's Mom Confessions. Yes it's not all unicorns and rainbows, it's more of a gloves off no holds barred type of group. But, I've also seen this group come together and support a member that is going through a time of crisis. Such as the member who lost her soldier husband in a motorcycle accident a few years back, another member that lost a child at birth, this group rallied around those members and offered support and compassion.
I've also seen members help each other with information and links to resources, I've seen members help other members in need.
Take it as it is, there is good and bad in all social media.
I've been on cm for about 6 years now and I really enjoy it. I spend most of my time in Mom Confessions but I am in some other groups as well. There is a lot of drama and trolling but they make it fun. I've gotten to know some really cool people over the years and gotten support and advice when I've needed it. It's not for those with thin skin, though.
This site deserves 0 stars. It's so sad that I do not have that option I honestly think this site is being ran by a bunch of immature teenagers. I posted a serious situation about PostPartum Depression a while back, I reached out for help. I am thankful I got kind replies by alot of members. After I saw my doc and got help and medication I deleted the post. I then made another post about an incident that happened with my baby. A member called whatiknownow (look out for her, she's pure evil) dug up my deleted post (how? I don't not know) and accused me of trying to cover up something I didn't do calling me Andrea Yates. My God! I then deleted that post & made another only to have that evil member repost all my deleted post for everyone to read. Anyone who thinks their post is deleted, IT IS NOT! Members have a way of digging it up. It's a shame the site owners let this go on. I got off of that board quickly! I asked them to delete my account by request and they did. That is not a place to ask advice, it's a place where people can throw bricks at you and get rewarded for it. I hope that site gets shut down!
I've been coming to the Cafe Mom site since 2007, I liked the site because you can kick back, vent and talk to friendly people. Over the years it's changed. The people on there are nothing but wolves waiting to attack you & the board owners do nothing about it. They just let it happen. Especially at the Step Mom Central board. *warning look out for the following members: ** * they are nice in the beginning ( scratch that out I was wrong, quote by member whatiknownow "well, she's wrong. She says we are nice in the beginning. That's bull$#*!. I'm never nice.") They gang up in you and get you kicked off the board in a flash. I vented there once and got verbally attacked by all of those members I mentioned, they called me all types of names and as soon as I started fighting back, the board owners deleted me and blocked my screen name from getting back on the site. Then the members there click on your screen name, dig up deleted post that you put on there in the past and use what you posted in the past against you. On top of that the owners GO INTO YOU INBOX & DELETE MESSAGES people sent to you. Where's the privacy?? They make you feel low & dirty like the scum of the earth. It's a shame the board owners let this go on, I thought cyber bullying was illegal. I would not recommend this site to ANYONE. You will get torn into pieces. Go to The Baby Center site or Baby Gaga, the women there have much more common sense.
**personal info redacted by admin
Cafemom is NOT a place for respectable and decent women to spend their time. Why? Because 90% of the time posters are going after each other for one thing or the other.
Sure cafemom has rules, but those rules aren't followed in private groups. One example is Exhile Island, one of the worst groups. Originally made for women who has been banned from Babycenter. They use that group to continue drama from BBC.
I was harassed, cyber-bullied, and stalked on BBC and it was brought over to CM. I have a pretty tough skin but the disgusting lies that fellow MOTHERS (shame on them) said about me was very hurtful. And CM allows it to happen time and time again.
I have seen you many women be beaten down by internet bullies. It's sad when a group of moms have nothing better to do with their time but hurt other moms.
This site is nothing but a bunch of bullies. If someone doesn't like what you say you get called names and made fun of. Report the wrong person,or disagree with the wrong person and yo7 get a warnning from the admmins. Thery don't enforce the terms of service. If you're popular you get away with murder. There's some crazies on here . People $#*!ing about how someone in the grocery store had Too much junkfood in their cart one member said she would have called Cps, yes calling cps because of junkfood. Run far far away from this site. They suck.
This site is great if you enjoy being harassed. I have personally witnessed an older member, Sassy762 stalk and harass women on this site. She took all the pictures women posted of themselves and their families (including their children) and made a blog to make fun of them. She has also called cps on members that she has cyber stalked. Admin knows this woman is a threat to the safety of others yet they allow her reign of terror to continue.
Another issue is that harassment is permitted under the anonymous feature. You are able to say anything you like without using your screen name. Trolls use this to demean mothers. I have witnessed a grieving mother who lost her newborn told that she deserved it. Others have used it to make fun of children with disabilities. Racists, misogynists, and bullies abound on Cafemom.
Tip for consumers: Do not reveal any personal information on this site. Your photos will be stolen. Be careful, vigilant, and wear your thickest skin.Ask Shelly about CafeMom
My experience has been pleasant, and I'm mainly involved with larger groups. I'm a known member and have zero stalkers in real life. Some members have become very dear friends.
I make sure to be pleasant and polite, although I'm not perfect. In return, people reciprocate. As long as you aren't a walking lifetime movie, people will be pleasant. They will call you out on self induced drama. They still also respond if you act like a jerk.
I've been involved with the site from beta testing days (2006 when I was asked to join and help launch it) and I can honestly say it's disappointing. I have watched it evolve and turn into such a nasty place. Groups run by the CM team (mega groups) are the most awful place to be. Those are uncontrolled chaos with inconsistency of administration. If it wasn't for a small group of women that have been a great support system throughout the years, I'd have left the site and never looked back. CM has made some horrible steps, but they don't care, it's all $$$ for page views and that seems to be working for them. I'd never recommend it to any of my friends or family.
I've been a member since the start and I would never recommend this site. There are nothing but stalkers and trolls. The admins are a joke and let it go on and they wash their hands of it. If you don't want your children, family, or exes contacted by other members, I suggest you don't join.
Tip for consumers: stay away from the psych ward, and cafemom main groups. None of them are friendly or helpful. This site is a complete waste of time. Below picture is tame compared to the normal name calling associated with the site.Ask Venny about CafeMom
Cafemom. What can you say about CM? I've participated on CM off and on for 6 years now. Sure it can get crazy and there are some outrageous trolls, but for the most part, it's fun. It is a great way to get advice and opinions from all sorts of ladies. You just have to know how to weed out the bad with the good. You have to ignore the trolls and the "do-gooders". Most of the moms are there to help and get to know others. You just have to know that certain groups are not there to do that. The private, member owned groups are the best for advice compared to the CM admin owned groups.
CaféMom: This is an adult Mom site, and like any other adult site there is a range of topics and opinions and attitudes. Thankfully this is an American based site that allows everyone to state their opinions freely, and openly, as long as insults are held somewhat at bay. E.G. You can't openly call another mom stupid, a whore, a c*nt, or a b*tch, etcetera. Of course those who are somewhat educated and understand how to word things, can easily get past that, and deliver a much needed/deserved insult where it's needed.
There are hundreds of private groups on CaféMom that allow for personal friendly support, and advice. All one needs to do is seek, and they shall find what they need.
You will find that 99% of the negative reviews on this site are by moms who ignorantly thought the group Mom Confessions was the place to get that support. They soon found out differently, but instead of moving to a smaller supportive groups, they chose to stay in Confessions, and whine and complain about bullying. (Americas crippling snowflake syndrome at it's best) Confessions is a fun, no holds barred, group where shocking confessions are often posted by moms, and trolls alike, for their shock value, and the horrified responses they get. It has the anonymous option for that reason. It is a lively group where humor, and having the ability to post shocking confessions, along with brilliant smart ass comebacks is a must. It's for nothing but entertainment, and those who have any intelligence realize this within 10 mins of joining that group. It's called Confessions for a reason. Does anyone really expect roses and sunshine there?
If you want advice or need support it can be found on CaféMom, but everyone should take their time, investigate the groups, before just jumping in, and posting all their most private problems and issues. Because you will be told what people think and sometimes it's brutal. But the truth while brutal can be educational, force one to look closely at themselves, change what needs to be changed, get professional help with serious issues, so they can go on and have a better life, which helps them to be a better mom to their children. And isn't that what CaféMoms supposed to be about anyway?
The group admins like any organization or group do have their favorites, who get away with breaking rules, and then there are those who purposely irk the admins by pushing the rules, and they do get spanked for their trouble. So play at your own risk. But know this, as much as people complain and say they hate that site, if they get banned ( and they do) they will and do go to any extent to get re-admitted. Because secretly we all love it, are addicted to it, and the friendships, and drama it adds to our day. (any helpful advice we get is a lovely extra bonus)
Simply put, CaféMom is a place for support and play. It all depends on where you look and what you are truly seeking. If you need help with an issue, find a small private group and take your time reading and getting to know how that group flows, before just jumping in, and stating your issue, and how you think it should be handled. If you want entertainment head to the Confessions groups or any other officially labeled b*tch groups on CaféMom and have fun. But always wear your big girl panties or be willing to kick ass commando style. (wink)
** As with any internet site, do not give out personal information that will allow others to identify you outside of CM. Do not share pictures of your home, yourself or children. All will be critiqued, and many will use the information you provide to prove you as a liar later if given the chance. Think of members as elephants with long memories. Be smart, use a screen name that does not identify you to anyone inside or outside of CM, because chances are your neighbors and family members are also members who keep that information secret.
Enjoy the Café, and remember to have fun and laugh!
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