So let me tell you my story.

I have been married over 42 years at this point in time, love my wife, but decided I wanted a bit more excitement. My first stepping out was about 15 years ago when I was close to retiring. I met a gal online. I signed up, had a fling with her for 15 years. We met infrequently over the years to hike and have sex outdoors. Then 2 years ago I met a young college gal online who wanted money for college. We met a couple times, I gave her a bit of money and we kissed once in a park. I never saw her after that cause I felt like she just wanted my money. I knew a young gal who liked the outdoors and tried to get her to go backpacking with me. That trip fell through when my wife found out about my plans hiking with her. Inviting her not only hurt my wife, it also hurt a friendship I had with my hiking buddy who was going on that trip and didn't know I had also invited a woman. He wanted it to be just he and I. I lost his respect. I also met a girl online a few years ago and carried on a friendship with her for 2 years. I backpacked with her on one occasion. While no sex was involved, this encounter was also hurtful to my wife because I was having a relationship with a woman outside our marriage, even it it wasn't sexual, and I lied to my wife saying I was hiking alone. Most recently I tried to arrange a trip with a gal 40 years my junior, to another city. I was willing to pay her airfare & entertainment. I asked if we could sleep together. Then she asked for more money. I never thought that paying for someone to meet me like this is probably prostitution and since I don't know the person at all, I suppose it would also be possible that someone else could be controlling her and taking any money from her from an encounter like this. Certainly not a good situation.

Eventually my wife knew something was up and I was found out about my long term affair and the other gals. Yes, I am still married because I care very much for my wife and want this never to happen again. She is a much better person than I. Was it worth the excitement? No its was not. I should have talked to my wife and opened up communications channels better than I did and had that exciting time with her. So I am working on opening up with her more than I did in the past, hoping every day that she will accept me back. My wife made me get tested for STDs. Turns out having that sexual affair caused genital warts.

I have always been a very independent person. From the time I was a young kid, I did my own thing. Getting married I did not realize how important it was to share everything, including my deepest thoughts about everything with the one person I promised to share everything with. But my independence was a problem. I did not realize, I just didn't understand that independence is not a one size fits all process. And I also did not understand that in a marriage there is give and take from everyone. Not everyone is as independent as I am. That doesn't make them wrong, me right, and in a marriage, both people have valid thoughts and should be heard. I was too selfish to consider my wife's feelings and how my choices would impact her.

Why would I do this? To regain my youth? Because I was only thinking of me? For a thrill? To escape the stresses of life? Probably all of those. I certainly enjoy life and want to enjoy life for the rest of my life. And yes, doing this was certainly not thinking of my wife's desires and plans for life. I got sidetracked and am glad my wife is as smart as she was to know how to look and find out what I was trying to hide from her. I am grateful that I was discovered, though I feel awful and foolish, because I was headed down a very dangerous and destructive path. I am fortunate that my wife is helping me. She is angry and extremely hurt, but I will work hard on getting back on track and think of her, and only her. It's terrible that having to hurt my wife so deeply was the way for me to get my wakeup call. I should have listened to my wife when she reached out to me and I shouldn't have been so arrogant to ignore her and do my own thing.

Used the site and a dated a girl. If You are lucky enough to find a normal girl who is not an escort; you can say " it goes well". Really?. No... I am warning every men in this site who will use this site and date an Ukranian girl. Those girls pictures looks awesome in their profiles but in Real life they are not so beautiful. Do not Meet an Ukranian girl in her country. If she is honest just take her to a different country. Do not invite the girl to Your country too because there are a lot of scammers in this site. Ukranian girls photoshopping their pictures in internet unlike European and US girls. If You met an Ukranian girl in this site first be sure that she is not an escort, second be sure that she is not a scammer. The best way is Skype. Then You must Meet her only in a foregein country. I repeat, do not go to Ukraine to Meet her, do not invite the girl to Your country. Just decide Your rules with her and go to another country with her for holiday. Because it is the best way of understanding her character in holiday in another country. Ukranian girls give a lot of importance to their girlfriend s opinions. She can easily offer You to Meet her girlfriend too just to take her opinion about You. And You have to pay Your date s girlfriend s taxi money in the end of the evening. Ukranian girls have an agenda and this agenda is generally about Your wallet. Even if You are looking for a long term relationship like I did going to Ukraine to Meet her is a pretty bad idea. Because Ukranian girls do not tell You anything about their characters. It is because of old Soviet mentality. They always hide their true natures from You. They have a lot of secrets in their private life and they are not open. They hide their Real faces. You only understand their character by their acts. An Ukranian girl can easily suggest You to invite her Ukranian " girlfriend" to the 5 star restaurant in the very first meeting in a decent and nice atmosphere. Why? Because for an Ukranian girl Your character is not important. The only thing that matters is what her Ukranian girlfriend thinks about You and You have to pay her girlfriends taxi money too. Like I Said; this can happen if only You are lucky like me. If You are unlucky; You can met an escort or a scammer or an organized crime member who wants to Steal Your passport and Your wallet. Simply do not go to meetings in Ukraine especially You are from US, UK or Europe.

Well I am dissapointed with site, all the claim-to be millionaires turned out jobless losers and psychopats who needed their ego growth by using some females for at least emotional and desired sexual slavery, but when you girls think of it - its just another scam on the site. One Chinese dude wants to make money by selling you to some weirdos-losers, how he can do that? By lieing to you and those psychopathic losers. Losers need to feel important (note that only losers need to feel important as hard working people already know who they are), women are desperate to meet a dream - rich guy (its kinda american women dream in fact). Guys who work dont have time for this simply, if they wanna escort - they will call to right agency that will garantee him quality of girl and he knows there are not going to be the surprises and he will treat that escort nice and delicately cos both know why they are there at the final point.
What happens on the sites with 30 bucks membership - all the losers - barmens, no worker wants to feel important, ask yourself - why don't they wanna go to escort - they have wide choice there and no surprises - the reason why is that they want to pay and they r looking for naive stupid women ( usually students or housevives - because no one else will fly with them) to use them for free or for cheap.
From very first point they do not respect all women who are on this website - because they think they are whores (of course because they dont wanna sleep with them for free), but they are on the mission - to find a dumb girl. Now, why this is dangerous for women. It's crazy dangerous in fact, you have to understand there aren't normal men there, normal men dont wanna hurt naive women and also dont wanna be used, they avoid places like this. But then who can be attracted to that? The first category is people who trade people. That's amazing opportunity for human trafic criminals to find naive women( I have a friend who words in police department of human trafflicking and he says that if before criminals had to work "on place" searching for people who need job and make them fake documents to move abroad, now much easier ways - such as travellers websites makes it the way much easier to criminals capture the right types of victims - young, pretty women). So women, please, be careful, you will find on misstravel only loser boys who will play with you in "I am rich and cool kinda guy" to gain his importance in this world and ego growing, but he will never pay you any tickets, he will only talk and maybe ask you to choose the place, hotel etc - but will never pay for anything, second category - perverts - if they will ask you somewhere they will ask you to spend at least 7 days because escort costs in 5 times more expensive, but after this you will never hear anything from them and they will be in constant search already whe you are with them and third part - the worst part is criminals, who finds the place the way more attractive. So if someone lives or offers you to travel to the countries as Mexico, China, Phillipines, Thailand, UAE ( and other muslim countries), Turkey -where trafflicking is especially popular - please, please, please, check everything million times before you make your stupid decision to fly.Be safe everyone, its a crazy world we r living.