LoveShack.org

:Loveshack, sadly looks finished. Posts are weeks or months old, little new. So people went to other sites, I guess. Where? I am a very longtime member. I enjoyed reading and commenting, but then the mods began deleting, banning members for reasons unknown. Three women who had interesting things to say were gone, then it went downhill. The mods will not even permit discussion of the forum, a strange group. Under other leadership, it would flourish again. Yes, it is pro-women feminist and a complaining male might get hit hard. I was always misinterpreted,. Infidelity is criticized. Social forums are usually liberalish PC and this is the same.
I am disappointed.

Some members are "paid members". An example could be "prepaph". A fat old lady without children who trolls every topic personally attacking men. If you debate a "paid member" you are given "points" then banned from the site from biased "monitors" like Tristan. Do not go here if you have a relationship issue. A liberal bunch of "man haters" that can attack you and are above reproach. It actually makes you despise the opposite sex if you stay here too long.

It's a garbage site - much like citydata.com (avoid that one too). In many ways, the posters remind me of a neighborhood I lived in. Poorly educated & high welfare where people changed partners repeatedly because, to be blunt, they were all losers (drunks & addicts).

You won't get any real or useful advice from this site. They are ok with affairs & cheating for one. Anyone who takes relationship advice from someone who gives a thumbs up to affairs needs psychological help, not internet help.

Maybe I'm looking at it through rose tinted glasses, but my memories of this from years ago were of a lively community with various interesting, annoying, fun characters making each other laugh, making each other angry and generally entertaining and annoying each other in the way that real people do when they're not afraid of their own shadows.

If you're a regular from those previous times who's self isolating after testing positive for covid, returning to this community will be a really depressing experience. That community seems to be long gone. I don't know who's running what's left of Loveshack, but I'd imagine them being the sort of well intentioned but drab, humorless authoritarians who earnestly believe they're accomplishing something positive as they suck the life and fun out of everything.

As others have said, the mods post under multiple user names. Even worse, some of them literally act like bullies and laugh at and mock your questions. They are extremely rude. My advice: Do not use this website!

Hi all!

I don't usually go out of my way to write negative reviews of inter-relationship advice fora online but I will make an exception for this one.

Absolutely dreadful.

The moderation is either AWOL or incapable of making quick, un-biased decisions (you can tell by the way everyone knows everyone else by name). The regulars are fine mostly - it's the constant, unchecked stream of newcomers who post dramatic one-off posts never to be seen again - I guess they know what to expect!

Anyway. I left off my own accord and have asked for all my posts / threads to be deleted and / or hidden (not entirely clear on the policy on this, tbh) - they agreed (unusual for them) so at least there is that going for them.

There are a group of women on there that give very cruel responses to women who have been cheated on. These women have post histories of 22,000+ on LoveShack so I suspect they work for LoveShack and are on there to trigger and gain an audience. They gang up and bully. They were/are probably mistresses as they take the side of the mistresses. Not a supportive place.

MEAN people.

When a mistress is on there complaining about her MM lover, these women are so supportive. It HAS to be a set up to trigger people.

Don't post your problems because you will feel worse and even MORE frustrated. The board is full of either paid responders who purposefully trigger or pure trolls who post thousands of responses and have been members for years and years.

Where will all the mean judgemental critics I mean posters go? I am so glad this poor excuse for a Forum is gone, gone forever.

It bothered me knowing I poured my heart out there once. So glad it is gone--the words no longer on that horrid site--poof like magic.

William was the worst, such a cruel small "man". Ha where does one go when they can't bully helpless people reaching out for help?

Adios LS!

I created an account almost 2 weeks ago because I have a situation.

The situation is that, I am a convicted felon and I met a woman who is a Criminal Defense Attorney. I did my due diligence and found out that a lawyer would not lose her law license if she dates a convicted felon.

I went on this site and asked how should I disclose my felony conviction to this woman and I received so many troll users with insincere posts, especially the user normal person. They kept telling me to leave her alone, blah blah blah. When I gave them a piece of my mind, I would get warnings from the moderation team to be respectful. They eventually locked my thread and I just deactivated my account.

Here is what I got attached from the moderation team.

People on that site must be foreigners with limited understanding of the English language. Or brain damaged. I wrote a very clear question. Two paragraphs. Very clear at the differences between myself & someone else.

One idiot who responded yammered on about something utterly irrelevant. And the other idiot who responded somehow got me & the other person confused.

The mods are biased IMO, it's a simple as that.
I don't believe there are as many genuine posters on the site as they claim because the Mods post under other names.
It seems some posters are allowed to say what they like while others get banned for challenging them.
Some of the questions asked are so idiotic it's easy to see that they have probably been made up.

Hi,
I'm Underpants. Posted on that site for many years, and it was good back in the 2000s. I of course got in a little trouble here and there, but then you could argue you case, email the moderator and work it out. This was before Robert/Art Critic (who I used to consider a nice person/friend). Never had a problem with Carhill/William. Neither were moderators in my time. I recall our moderator had a pee wee herman avatar and the name Tony.

I recently logged back in and in the Political thread criticized support of Trump. I found a quote by Robert posting as Art Critic supporting trump. I did quote it and asked why? What is it, given all he has done do you still stand behind this person? I though it a reasonable question that anyone should be able to answer, I was asking the poster Art Critic, not the moderator Robert. I do not see a way to communicate with moderators directly as it used to be. My post was deleted and I was issued some kind of acknowledge your wrong doings to post again (no way to reply, only acknowledge).

I tried to rejoin in April, most of my posts were edited with content removed and edited, which altered the context of my posts and had other posters inquire if I was okay.

My last attempt felt safe, a gardening thread, sharing gardening tips and how to grow our own food in a pandemic (did not use scary pandemic word). Just sharing tips. Again, my posts were modified and I was issued an "acknowledge to post" warning with no way to ask... what?

So I logged out and good luck.

There was a movement a few years ago (2015?) for Lovecrowd, by long term banned members, but I do not see it available any longer.

I just worry that without deleting my account the moderators can just make up words, as they already do, and I have no control. No option to delete my account.

Sad, used to be a cool place.

Terrible site. This place condones affairs and thinks any woman with a child has a free pass to sleep with married men. Stay far away from this site if you care about your relationship.

Used to go here to get advice after breakups, got banned for no reason trying to help some people coping...

If you are a GUY do not bother going to LS, its a bunch of old miserable cat-ladies banning all men they can find. What a joke.

Feminine imperative, male censorship, crazy old feminists

Tristian and Robert should not be moderating any forum, least of all this one. They basically operate like little Hitlers, in their little world.
As you can see from other reviews, this is not a good place to discuss your personal life.

They're asking for money now. Complete joke.

They suspend and ignore the concerns of regular users while letting specific bullies run rampant. They let one person harass me so badly that I will never go back. Then they blamed me for the awful things the other person said.

People who are cheating on their spouses OR who are the side piece have free rein to say pretty much whatever they want on this forum, but heaven forbid a NON cheater say anything even slightly untoward. The moderator, William, is a cheating POS himself, so there you have it. The lying, sneaky $#*!heads are at the top of the food chain on this forum.

William and his other moderators ruined the site with their constant meddling in discussions. Any little thing could get you banned. The site was filled with a lot of feminazis who didn't hesitate to hit the report button because they didn't like a post. William played favorites with a lot of the female members and let them post whatever they wanted. I'm glad the site is gone. It was a very toxic site. Good riddance.

Good group of members, often willing to help out and offer detailed suggestions. Unfortunately, the moderator (who will not give his full name, only "William") is think-skinned, vindictive, and prone to ban anyone who disagrees with him, making the site pretty much useless.

What started out as a relatively positive experience was quickly soured by mods who arbitrarily delete posts and issue "Friendly Reminders", which are essentially a soft ban that requires the person's posts to be approved by a moderator for a specified number of days, without any explanation as to why or what the "violation" was. When you observe the moderator edits to other posts it is clear that they regularly edit and delete posts they personally disagree with. I discussed this issue with several long-time members of the site who confirmed that it is a chronic issue that they have experienced varying levels of frustration with over the years.

I expressed concerns about the site being a place of censorship when Paul, the owner, made an announcement that they were removing one of the reaction options and those concerns were actualized by the site's moderators.

Additionally, there is a fringe group of very jaded women who attack and discredit the advice that some men, like myself and others, gave to other men when it comes to dating. Advising members of my own gender on how to be more confident, build chemistry, and make more meaningful connections with women is bashed and discredited as "Pick Up Artist" advice by this particular group of women. One such woman said that inviting a woman out to dinner for a first date instead of the default "coffee date" was nothing more than a manipulative "technique" to pressure women into dates they felt obligated to go on with the purpose of getting them drunk and taking advantage of them. Unbelievable.

There is also a considerable Groupthink phenomenon running rampant on LS. It is the blind leading the blind on that site, with people giving terrible advice that doesn't work and only perpetuates the same dating woes that lead to them giving the terrible advice in the first place. One such person said that 80% of her first dates - primarily to coffee shops - never lead to a second date, which is why she went on coffee dates in the first place and also why she said she "doesn't bother to build chemistry". It was circular reasoning at its finest, but people liked the advice, agreed with it, and bashed the advice that actually works or that exposed the flaws in that kind of thinking. These are people who have little to no interest in actual personal growth or self-improvement and clearly just want to stay stuck and justify their own flawed ways of doing things that repeatedly lead to failure so that they can continue to set themselves up for more of it.

Taken collectively, this is one of the worst forums of any kind that I've ever participated on and I won't be returning.

Not sure why there are no positive reviews since 2018, but there are so many trolls and haters that they had to create a forum for them to chew on.
There are still relationship and whatever other forums but they do not get the traffic that the 'Proselytization & Warmongering' forums have. Sometimes wonder if the DOJ shut them down in 2018 as a hate group.
The site does have an easy to use ignore feature so it's possible to block out the sexist, racist, homophobic, Islamophobic, antisemitic rants so prevalent there.
Unfortunately the advice on the other threads is generally along the same vein as the old timers and trolls prefer.

MY experince of https://www.loveshack.org is one of worst site ever made. They kept banned from there website that i did nothing wrong. I always one that i got attracked and cyberbullying for being a learning disabties women. They always kept banned me for each ac$#*! that i tried make a ac$#*! They are one that being rude and shut down the site. Shouldn't be legal anymore. Is shouldn't be open to all wesbiste. Let it die and be dead. I did nothing wrong. I was one that got cyberbullying from user.

I "dared" to express an opinion on a political thread chock full of vile right/left vitriol that I believed all American politicians were garbage and had that opinion censored. It apparently didn't fit the prescribed binary agenda and was seen as a free-thinking threat.

What a hateful toilet.