We are a married Couple and have been with them for the last 10 years. We agree it does cater more to the more attractive, in-shape Swingers, which make it seem "cliquish". But there is something for everyone there. So if you're patient, something always pans out (unless you are obese, 60+, grotesque!) Our favorite feature is being able to hook-up with out-of-towners. Cool site if you're near a major city!