phil c.

The best thing I could say about Match. Com is that I did not experience any attempts to scam me. Other than that, despite my sincere efforts, it has been a total waste of time for 5 months of membership. I never imagined I could be this unsuccessful. In all fairness I am in a particular demographic, having just turned 70. I am in excellent health and fitness. That did not matter one iota on Match. I wrote courteous, pleasant messages to between 40-50 ladies. Not one, not a single reply. This is in part due to the fact that many women are no longer on the site but Match keeps their picture and profile up. Match hopes you write them so then Match can try to lure them to pay another subscription fee because they now have mail. There were other women who read my profile but as they are in the driver's seat due to multitudes of men being on Match, they become extremely selective with their self image at an all time high from the attention men provide them on a dating site. Those, like myself, of average height at 5'9" are at a disadvantage to taller guys whether they are flabby or out of shape, unlike myself, as I am in top shape. In 5 months did I have communication or meet any women? Yes, in 5 months I did meet 4 ladies. Here is what they had in common: They contacted me first and they were all older than me, 72 to well into their 70's. I never met a woman on Match in her 60's in 5 months. Did I receive "Likes"? Yes, I did, again from women a few years older than me, not from ladies in their 60's. Match.com is a master of deception. They are unconcerned with you, only your money. It has been a terrible experience for me to try Match.com.

It would be sad if people are influenced by Yahoo's biased and sensationalized home page. Those who lean left politically get their views validated by Yahoo daily with click bait headlines of liberal righteousness. Headlines of liberals having to "school" conservatives. All the better if the righteous victims are minorities suffering the evils of systemic racism that seems pervasive in American society. I would think that a moderate or free thinking person can see right through the sophomoric writing style that Yahoo delivers for the propaganda that it is. I have an open mind. If Yahoo were to improve, presenting news in a fair and honest way, I would then acknowledge their effort.

Although I mention OURTIME, it applies to any dating site. After sending thoughtful, well written messages to ladies, more often than not, a male will be ignored. Yes, there probably are a small percentage of fellows, tall & seemingly with status, who may receive responses. What I do not understand is this: I see the same ladies with their profiles month after month on a couple of sites. Some appear quite nice looking or at least decent looking. Are they probably ignoring other males, as they ignored me, & truly feel that it is just a question of time before the ideal gentleman reaches out to them? Wouldn't they understand that they are bypassing plenty of good men, rejecting almost all, but not finding what they fantasize about? They seem intelligent but Einstein had a famous saying about expecting a different result using the same methods over & over (month after month). As the months roll on, doesn't it become apparent to these elitist ladies that their quest, is for the most part, a fantasy? What do they really want?
Some have titles, "Looking for Mr. Perfect, or Looking for Mr. Right." What does that really mean to these ladies on the same site month after month? Are they fooling themselves? They are frustrating me, but not fooling me.

Going to hell would be like being a male perpetually stuck on POF begging ladies for a chance to possibly meet them so you could apologize for not being young enough, tall enough, wealthy enough, powerful enough, good enough dancer, golfer, or anything else that each one of them are entitled to have chase after them.
I do not have anything against the site itself. What I do not understand is through life, ladies i have encountered in so many aspects of life, treat me with respect and general courtesy. Why then on POF am I ignored, deceived, lied to, by profiles that state they are thoughtful, sincere, and want the same in a man. I'd love to get fortunate and turn my back on this crappy experience of just never being good enough for the princesses of POF.