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Although I have had issues with Zoosk, it was more over the women I contacted rather than a short comming of Zoosk, From my limited but wasteful experience at "other" sites, Zoosk delivered without the scammers, mysterious email from people, etc.

The issue I had with many women had to do more with either 1. No responses, 2. Insultingly - where the presummption of innocents is waived to insure that lady didn't fall into the same trap as previous relationships. 3. Tire Kickers - ladies that are fielding the possiblities but not certain how they would fit it into their life. 4. professional dater - she'll meet for a few dates but the word GF never seems to apply. 5. Genuine Article

Relationships are not easy. They require an investment on both parts just to see how it will work. You can't make that determination in a photo, a profile or winking.

For all of us, we can easily make a list of the pitfalls that have undermined past relationships. We must learn from the past and put it behind. Unless we are interested in something fast, easy or non committed, the profile needs to portray this. It should also portray a vend diagram that illustrates how much of a relation the person wants.

I have found, after trying to chat with many women, successfully chatting with a handful, talking live with a fraction of those and finally meeting yet a fraction of that, only to find I was talking with someone who only wants to meet for an occassional date, a movie, dinner or drinks, or dancing. She won't use the word exclusive at any point because, she's playing the field. There is nothing wrong with that, except that it sets up a false reason to meet. This needs should be a clear goal in the ideal date. Because "ideal date" tends to suggest fairtale yet this person likely has a lineup of fairytales stacked. She'll have a tight schedule and will typically not be available during the obviously dating windows.

Knowing this in advance is important. Knowing also where the person wants to go with the relationship. His/Her time line. How committed are they to finding a relationship and what are they willing to invest of themselves