Mark S.

E-Harmony is like watching a train crash in slow ultra-motion; each second, 1,000,000 frames of film! Achingly frustrating and insanely annoying. Aside of their overly-priced membership fees and excruciatingly tedious questionnaire before you even get to square one, what follows is a downward spiral of utter frustration and disappointment.

As many have stated here, e-Harmony's slick marketing and advertising campaigns lead one to believe finding your dream partner is just a click away, and find him/her is going to be a wonderful idyllic lazy stroll in the park. Alas their glossy presentation could not be more far removed from the truth.

I signed up for a three month membership, thankfully offered at a reduced promotional price. Following the tedious process of filling out the questionnaire, I was sent my very first six matches – yes, there is no typo ― just six. And then depression set in!

You see, e-Harmony hold this view they are professionally qualified in the art of perfect match-making. Erroneously, they hold a view their system is infallible and hence believe, they and ONLY they are qualified to make a judgement on who is best suited to each of their members.

And thus commences their dictatorial right to choose the ‘perfect' match for you. Indeed their contemptuous arrogance extends to every aspect of the selection process, to such a point, all control is completely withdrawn from their members, treating them as nothing more than a mono-cellular life form.

Herewith, some of the incredibly restrictive aspects from e-Harmony:

1. They send you approximately half a dozen names a day - That is it. So in the event you do not like any of their offerings, you must wait 24 hours to receive the next batch!

2. They have a secondary option called "What if" which are purportedly close (but not perfect) matches – which one can browse through, but even these are incredibly restricted, and so if nothing suitable is found there, they end the list with a message telling you must wait until tomorrow to view more members. What the hell is that?

3. Through their overly-zealous control, E-Harmony has completely ignored one of the most basic elements in match-making: chemistry. No, they firmly believe everything revolves around their stupid psychometric questionnaire.

4. However, E-Harmony allows you some control, (very small though it is) such as distance and ethnicity, albeit, in truth even though one expresses specifics, I often received ‘suggestions' which fell outside my criteria, so basically the filters do not work. Indeed, as an agnostic, I specified I was not interested in members who held strong religious faiths, yet often received proposals of these type of individuals.

As such, the whole system is flawed and fails to hit the grade by a long shot. Furthermore, the restrictive daily offerings are incredibly annoying, since many of the suggestions were not to my liking, simply because I felt zero attraction to the women they offered.

Finally, I have to say, of the members I wrote to, 90% never replied. So when I wanted to send a follow-up message to encourage a response, once again e-Harmony came in with the obsessive control factor, denying me such an option. When I called their customer service, they told me there was nothing I could do about it and just would have to wait patiently (an –eternity) for said member to reply.

Regardless of these aspects, worst of all is that their match-making skills are in reality grossly inadequate, since often I was sent ‘perfect matches' which were clearly nothing of the sort. Allow me to elucidate, I am not referring to physical appearance here, rather more, their lifestyle, hobbies and interests.

In conclusion I can say e-Harmony is a rubbish dating site, for in their zeal, they have completely removed the delight of finding a perfect partner. Through their overly-confident control of all aspects of the selection process, they steam-roll their members into a state of complete submission, ultimately leading to apathy, thus e-Harmony is not only incredibly annoying but a most boring affair.

Through their bigoted mind-set, E-Harmony has completely lost focus of the essential elements in finding true love, by treating their members like kindergarten children; as though only e-H is qualified to make a sound judgement as to what their members seek (require), ultimately treating adults as incompetent Neanderthals; incapable of making a rational decision about what they deem a good match and who they wish to date.

Do not waste your money on e-Harmony. They will drive you to despair!

This is the worst dating site I have ever had occasion to join. Absolutely pathetic interface, with inanely annoying coin system which just keeps ripping you off; ever asking for more money so one can sustain communication with members.

Even when one tries to express and interest nothing ever happens. Worst still, when you reject a member, they are like horror movie zombies which cannot be killed off; they just keep on coming back in an appalling recurring nightmare! I am absolutely convinced everything about Zoosk is fake, as no matter what you do, there is never any reply or ‘real' interaction with ‘real' people.

Regarding records, it is just impossible to control "your interests" in any shape or form. And for those members one does contact or write to, no personal folder is created, so all records of communication are instantly lost the instant after you press the send button.

But above all what I found most incredible, was the quality of the female members – these are woefully by far the ugliest women I have seen in my life! I am talking light years beyond coyote ugly! - Overall value Zero Stars!