I told people I used to like myself until I signed up for Zoosk and felt so rejected. Men would look at my profile and not make contact. Then, I changed the profile to be more about me and not about what I thought people were looking for, and I also got over my shyness and would send a little short hello. Conversations then flowed more easily. Don't give up--everyone is a bit uncomfortable at first. Zoosk provides a wonderful chatting platform to ease into that first meeting.