Karen D.

Hated it! Tons of scammers (always GIS the pics, if they are too good looking to be true... they are fake profiles!) and even after reporting them, the profiles are still up. The people I wrote to didn't respond, don't think they are even still members, as I am attractive. The ones I did meet LIED about everything... height, weight, age, marital status, # of ex-wives/kids, employment status... you name it, and their pics were all completely outdated. Had 66 horrible dates in a year and have sworn off dating at all at this point. Complete waste of time and money.

I am a woman, so my experience is very different than the men on AM, but I think if you ask the 3 men I am currently having affairs with, they would give AM a pretty high rating too! It is free for women, so I had nothing to lose. Yes, I was only on the website for 10 days, having been inundated with over 500 winks, emails and pics in that period of time. Of these I maybe responded to 20, met 12 (NO SEX was involved at this point) and ended up with my final 3 picks. (They were all such great guys I couldn't just choose one!) The competition is extremely fierce, so put on your best face, and be on your best behavior. If you do the math I chose the top. 06% of all the men who contacted me! BTW, I hear the complaint that all the woman are overweight on this site... I am 50, very fit and wear size 4 jeans, so I know that that is not true. I am attractive, but no beauty queen. Don't expect to find a super-model on this site... they have dates already and don't need to be on-line! Keep your expectations reasonable.

Here's what NOT to do if you want to be successful on this site:
1. Send penis pics or have shirtless selfies taken in a bathroom mirror. (All these were immediately deleted along with any winks, emails associated with the user!)
2. Send a 1 sentence "hi there" message- I responded to men who sent thoughtful, informative, funny and/or interesting emails that DID NOT immediately solicit sex from me.
3. Don't bother to read her profile to see if your wants/needs actually match. I wrote a very clear description of the situation I was looking for (long-term, not a one-night stand), and made my sexual preferences clear. If you are looking for BDSM, DO NOT expect a response from a woman who says she like to cuddle! Duh!
4. Expect to just meet and jump in the sack. This site is for people looking for "affairs", which I believe entails getting to know someone, and actually enjoying their company and treating them with respect and kindness. If you want a quick hook-up join Tinder.
5. Expect to find some hot, bored 25 year-old housewife wanting to bone you day and night. We are real women. I just happen to be single, but all my lovers are married and younger. I get NO complaints about my age. Have realistic expectations, and widen your age criteria. You'd be surprised at how many of us "older" woman have it going on!

I had no idea what to expect when I signed up, and all my expectations were exceeded. I think my guys might say the same thing...