ImaGuy G.

POF is a dating site wherein membership is "free". Recently (spring 2013) the ownership - this is a privately held company which I prefer over the huge corporate money sucking dating conglomerates.

There seems to be a huge change in policy. Many non-paying and paying mens accounts are being deleted willy-nilly. A woman told me that she received an email from the owner that he is weeding out men who are overtly sexual with woman - the five guys she knows (including me) would never ever consider sending or writing something of pronograpic nature - so that is an out right lie. I tend to write many woman - as with all dating sites men out number women by a very high percentage, and most women do not write back - there is no way for a man to show a woman interest without writing an email - pof policy bans copy paste messages, however when most woman write "I am looking for a guy with like interests in her profile description, I tend to send a copy paste email because I have no idea what to write to her). I suspect that paying members are less likely to be deleted.

I did write a very harsh email to a member who turned out to be 16 years old pretending to be a 30 yo adult. I am a teacher and do not think adults and kids should "mingle" and believe that there was no good reason for her to be on the site.

My guess is that if the ownership continues it draconian management practices,

For every 40 women I wrote, three or four responded of which one to three would say "not interested". For every 100 women, 25%-35% are married or in a relationship and lying about it, 1-3 are men pretending to be women, and 10-15 are prostitutes. As with men on here (per reviews by women on site jabber), many POF women are not desirable for real relationships. Going through an illness; married; financially debt ridden and looking for a man to pay off their debts; extremely out of shape; drug, gambling, or alcohol issues; wanted in various states; angry with their spouse or X and taking it out on the men on POF; or completely psychotic. These woman also tend to be on Match, Mingle, and the other paying sites, so it may be the norm.

In general, you can find a partner on POF (men expect to work your bottom off writing many women for a very low quality response rate). The site is picture driven, to meet quality members of both sexes, get a higher quality - professional like set of pictures taken. Do somethings fun (although pictures of women shooting guns scare the heck out of me - what kind of a potential partner shows that he/she can blow your brains out?), one professional dress picture, one dress up picture for a night out - woman makeup and nice hair etc such as one taken at a wedding, formal party, and/or new-years- a female friend on mine played with different photos and highly suggest showing some cleavage with bit of care so that men do not jump to the conclusion that men tend to jump to - use this picture as your main because this is the only thing men know about you prior to clicking on your profile (we have no choice but to look at your picture on this site), then one or three with you smiling and doing things you enjoy doing. Be VERY careful about posting a picture of you with your friends or children. If there are two or more woman in a picture, I have to guess which one you are and often guess wrong (and quite often, the other person looks better in the picture), I feel it is unwise to put pictures of children on an adult dating site even if they are yours.

I am not created another account on POF and until the ownership stops deleting nice guys from the system; I recommend that you do not waste your time as well.

I was on the site for about 3 years (very careful - I am single and was looking for a single/divorced or divorced FWB situation because I was lonely and had tried the more traditional dating (for LTR) sites (Match, Christian, POF) to find that they are a farce. The Entry cost of Ashley Madison is Excessive considering the support they provide, Assume $100 minimum. To write a person is $5.00 and the system is defaulted to put an priority check mark on the email as priority for an $5.00 ($10 per contact). If a member writes you "collect" and you click on it, it is another $5.00 for them to say, "sorry not interested" because there is no way to communicate it without a charge or blowing the contact off. I found that the vast majority of women who write me were prostitutes, scammers, and "sugar babies". They were quite good at responding to scammers or illegal activities. However, they only returned $5 of the $20 or so it cost me to discover that I was dealing with a Nigerian scammer (most of my membership). It cost me about $300 to meet one nice woman who was married to a husband with borderline personality disorder and needed me more as a friend than as a lover (three hundred dollars to enter the friend zone). I put my same ad on the local craigslist weeded out scam and within a couple of weeks found a woman who met my needs (her husband died in an accident and she needed an adult and a lover in her life as she worked through the issues and I needed someone who understood that I had lost my job and was not financial available (or physically available - I am taking every odd job I can find to eat). It worked much better and we have had considerable respect.

Unless you live in a major urban area, Ashley is likely to be a waste of time and money (at least for men), the real women looking for lovers are quite small so they have the pick of the liter and unless you are exceedingly tall, handsome and pretty much the kind of jerk guy that always gets laid anyway, you are unlikely to meet anyone worth your time.

Lastly most of the women on here are likely to have multiple partners... wear a condom! The women most men are looking for will pick one guy and get off the site quite quickly.