After reading some of the reviews here, I have to agree that the automatic emails and chat lines are somewhat suspicious, but I looked past them when I signed up. I prefer to take matters in my own hands and contact the women I'M interested in. Sure, most of them start talking about marrying and settling down straight away, but I usually stay away from women like this - there's so much more to talk about in the beginning! I contacted about 5 women when I first started five months ago and have narrowed down my list to two ladies. So far, so good!