Thanks, i have wondered about the manfinder site as well. When i signed up i got all kinds of friend requests and chat requests, and i live in an area where there are not that many people to chat with, so i was very suspicious. Then best sites which i have found, and which actually have lots of "real" members, are "outpersonals.com", adam4adam, com, and adultfriendfinder.com. They would be your best bets. The adam4adam site has the best priced premium plan, at 10 bucks per month... the other two are more, but you you pay on a yearly basis, will run you around 120 or so... hop that helps.