Dave S.

Encountered reps from this site trying to hook guys in from other adult dating sites. They post a profile (usually a woman) including photos (presumably lifted from elsewhere) on a larger, successful dating site, then when you message them they direct you to Adultflirters.com if you wish to continue chatting.
Stay away.

Having enjoyed dating a number of older women (up to 16 years older than myself) for a couple of years, I thought that I would give the much-hyped Cougar Life (CL for short) a whirl. Silly me.

I discovered several things after inadvisedly signing up to CL for a year:
1 - there are not many "real" women (i. E. non-scammers) on the site;
2 - most of the real women do not log in more than once per week;
3 - 90% of the women who log on at all live in London. There are about twenty listed as living in my city but in 12 months only one of them logged on once! I logged on almost every day;
4 - around 50% of the women using the site are married and looking for affairs with younger men;
5 - a lot of the women (presumably mostly the married ones) are also to be found on Ashley Madison, often with the same profile name;
6 - the single women are almost all divorced or separated;
7 - guys will have most success if they are aged 18-29 as this is the demographic that the women (typically aged 35+) seem to be mainly seeking.

Of the single women using the site, many of them seem to be searching for a "life partner" or a long-term, serious relationship with a man who is 20 years their junior. No offence ladies, but if you are in your mid 50s and don't take care of yourself then you aren't even going to get a date, let alone a serious relationship. Few men are going to want a long-term relationship with someone who might be older than their mother, and even fewer are going to seriously consider spending the rest of their life with one, unless she is very, very rich. Age-gap dating of this sort is mainly about fantasy and lust. That said, I have dated an older woman (16 years older) who had had "work" done (boob job - they were enormous! And liposuction) and she did look (and feel) fantastic, although seeing her for a year was enough for me as she started to get a bit demanding. I didn't meet her on CL.

The women who achieve more success are the ones looking for one-night fun or casual relationships. I have chatted with a couple of women who have used the site for years and have each met hundreds of younger guys for casual sex. One lady met at least one guy per week and had been using the site for a several years, having lots of fun. Both of these women were in their 40s and liked to meet guys aged 18-late 20s.

Essentially if you are a youngish guy (18-29, but 30-39 if you like women in their 50s+), take care of yourself (i. E. you exercise, moisturise, don't smoke and aren't fat), know how to talk to women (they are just like us really, but they smell better and look prettier), live in a major city or are prepared to travel to one and aren't too fussy then you will certainly manage to meet at least one woman for a date or more. Everyone else doesn't really stand a chance so save your money :(

Where to begin? Well, as with many "affair" dating sites, this is completely free for women to use, so they have to invest essentially nothing whatsoever to stand a decent chance of meeting men. Guys have to pay >£15 per month and automatic billing must be cancelled via telephone call instead of online, which is not very user friendly.

As with other sites of this nature there are thousands and thousands of both zombie and fake female profiles. Only when you pay do you discover the truth - in your area (within 10-20 miles) there will typically be 50-60 actual real women who check their profile regularly (i. E. at least monthly), and of those at least 2/3 will only be interested in single men (surely the domain name at the very least implies that they should therefore look elsewhere?), about 1/6 will want a sugar daddy, and the remainder will naturally (given that they have so much from which to choose) opt for the best-looking guy(s) that they can find - women over 40 want men in their 20s and 30s, and women in their 20s and 30s are looking for guys in their 20s and 30s. Average-looking, middle-aged blokes therefore don't stand much of a chance, unless they are prepared to climb aboard absolutely anything, and no, it doesn't matter how eloquently you write your profile text, if you aren't a potential model then either lower your standards further than you thought possible or just give up. Some of the genuine women seemingly only want endless flirty chat, until they get bored at which point you will never hear from them again.

One woman with whom I chatted (via text message, so no record on the site sadly) turned out to be a bit loopy and this eventually forced me to call and have my profile deleted!

You will be kept dangling on the hook by "messages" from women who do not really exist, and who live slightly too far away from you, while those who appear to be most likely to be genuine will do nothing more than "wink" at you even if you match what they claim to be seeking 100%.

I also tried logging on as a woman and estimate that men outnumber women on this site at least 100:1! Don't waste your money fellas.

Additional word of warning: the company running this site (Global Personals) will list your profile on all of its other dating sites, and lists people from all of its other dating sites on this one, thus substantially increasing your chances of getting into difficulty.

Absolute waste of time. Please do not be deceived by the other reviews which are clearly far too good to be genuine and are quite obviously (very badly) written by site employees (who should perhaps consider some English language evening classes? Much more useful than your IT qualification in the real world).

You will note that they also review other dating sites on Sitejabber and write: "well, this dating site is pretty good, say 3* or 4*, but my best results were from Saphrina.com" or similar. Don't be deceived.

P.s. "webmasters earn $$$$$!" on any website is an indication that you should avoid it.

I'd heard good things about this site from a mate. It is easy to use and free, which is great, although you have to answer a lot of seemingly pointless questions. I signed up and made the mistake of saying that I was just looking for something casual. Clearly if you are a guy and this is what you are really looking for, then this might not be the site for you, unless you have very thick skin. Probably better to lie (as my mate did) and claim that you are looking for a "short-term relationship" if you want to avoid the inevitable abusive responses to emails in which you have written something grossly offensive like "Hi, I like your profile, please have a look at mine and let me know if you are interested". Time for me to give up on internet dating I think...

You sign up. You look. Lots of people in my area, you think. You pay. You discover the truth - lots of profiles of women who only signed up out of curiosity and have never returned, a couple of professional women selling sexual services, lots of fake profiles run by employees who will chat with you and send photos but never actually meet up, hundreds of very lonely people who just want to talk and nothing else (including some who seemingly are unaware that it is supposed to be a sex hook-up site!), and one or two genuine women who are actually looking to meet men, but who are so overwhelmed with messages from lonely men that they are rarely able to reply! Furthermore I listed my sexuality as "hetero" but only received genuine offers of sex (thanks, but no thanks) from men.

I have spoken (in real life) to other people (two of my mates) who have used this site and only one of them managed to meet up with a real woman from this site in real life. She met him a few times and then moved on to another guy from the site. She told my mate that she could afford to be very picky as there was a lot to choose from! There are so many more guys than women on this site that the odds of a man successfully securing a date / meeting must be incredibly poor, even if each genuine woman met a different guy every night of the week. The site must be a great moneyspinner for the owners and is quite depressing for male users!

Your odds of success with this sight might be slightly greater than zero if you live in a very large city, e.g. London, Liverpool, etc., but otherwise STAY AWAY as it is a scam.

Mainly fake / zombie female profiles or women paid to entice men to contact them (for which men pay $$$). Some females are escorts, and many others are just there to tease. Met (and had sex with) one genuine woman from >60 messages (by a complete fluke, although she was 2" taller [which meant that she was 6' tall rather than the 5'10" that I was expecting] and 5 years older than stated on her profile!). Even with the fake female profiles, profiles of actual men must outnumber profiles of women (fake, zombie or otherwise) by ten to one or similar.

As with other sites, lots of women seemingly just want to exchange adult chat with men without ever meeting them.

There also seem to be a number of scammers using the site as periodically I would receive messages from people puporting to be genuine users attempting to encourage me to sign up and register with alternative sites. As somebody else has mentioned, profiles that look too good to be true always are.

Update: I have continued using the site until my credits ran out. Wow. The last woman that I almost met arranged to meet me, asked that we should both turn off our profiles (I obliged), but then in one of the weekly emails showing photos of new members, I see her profile photo with a different username. Probably pretty obvious with hindsight, but it seems that some women using affairs sites cheat not only on their husband but also on guys that they are having affairs with. I later discovered that this person actually had three profiles. It seems to be common for women to have multiple profiles as they cost nothing for women to set up. So guys, be prepared to share, even if your lover will never admit it.