Kasidie.com is much better. As a single male on LL, i found it an unfriendly place. You have a target on your back and they will do everything they can to get rid of you. It's a hostile environment. They can "ban" you for any arbitrary reason and as mentioned above, there is some kind of weird BIG BROTHER vigilance on the site where they are clearly monitoring and watching all emails and transactions.
It's a colossal waste of money. Check out Kasidie. Much friendlier group and they also have the "certification" process which guarantees legitimate people.