MelanieToniaEvans has a rating of 4.86 stars from 654 reviews, indicating that most customers are generally satisfied with their purchases. Reviewers satisfied with MelanieToniaEvans most frequently mention narcissistic abuse, narp program, and youtube videos. MelanieToniaEvans ranks 1st among Self Help sites.
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Before NARP I had no way of reaching the deep places that needed healing inside of me. Melanie has been divinely called to extend the wisdom and energetic codes that have saved mine and countless others from lives of torment and despair. Speedy Shifts is definitely next level. Over only a few short days of using them I am having major blockages in my life wiped away with awe inspiring moments of connection, insight, and profound gratitude from the imparted ease and peace I am filled with. Thank you Melanie for the soul defining work you do.
This program does nothing and the forum is toxic. Please don't waste your money. Melanie offers an example shift for free on her youtube channel. Just use that. The extortionately priced narp program forum is not a help, it is w toxic hotbed of victim shaming. Please don't give this a penny.
Before NARP I had no way of reaching the deep places that needed healing inside of me. Melanie has been divinely called to extend the wisdom and energetic codes that have saved mine and countless others from lives of torment and despair. Speedy Shifts is definitely next level. Over only a few short days of using them I am having major blockages in my life wiped away with awe inspiring moments of connection, insight, and profound gratitude from the imparted ease and peace I am filled with.
Thank you Melanie for the soul defining work you do.
Melanie speaks the truth and upholds it for others.
This program does nothing and the forum is toxic. Please don't waste your money. Melanie offers an example shift for free on her youtube channel. Just use that. The extortionately priced narp program forum is not a help, it is w toxic hotbed of victim shaming. Please don't give this a penny.
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My credit union initially rejected the order, probably because it is international, but easily cleared this up with bank and asked them to process this.
This material has shown me that I am not crazy as I began to believe and has given me the strength and the empowerment to not go back to a life of true misery and daily heartbreak. I'm only 1 week in, and I still miss my ex but this is the first time I've been able to find my inner strength not to fall back victim to him as I have the 5 other times I tried to leave
I first heard the suggestion of emotional cord cutting on Quora. I then found her website through Google searches on emotional disconnecting from a narcissistic partner
I want just to say thank you to Melanie. I found her materials about narcissistic abuse in a time where I was having this negative experience and I can say that probably she save my life. I recommend her to everyone is having this tipe of experience because it was really helpful for me
I recieved great help and assistance from Cynthia. I have downloaded the modules and the e-books. I just haven't joined the narp forum. I will be joining it soon and wanted to say thank you for the support and to thank Melanie for creating these modules, because you really do have to get the trauma out of your body.
Because you can't think your way out of a panic attack, you have to get it out of your body.
I've been with Mel for over 10 years now. She is amazing! Like many others, she has helped me in ways I can't begin to describe. I thought I was a lost cause and hopeless until this angel on earth helped me.
I was lucky enough to find her!
Working diligently through the Modules has been a revelation to me, showing me so much rough stuff that came up and that I'd been carrying for a lifetime or three. For sure, it's not easy, the tendency to slide back into those negative thinking patterns is the greatest sabotage to my recovery but I'm getting better at managing those moments. It is indeed a comfort at times to work through specific modules to target specific issues that come up. This is a lifelong commitment and investment for a healthy new life.
I can just relate so totally with her past experiences and methods of helping others get to the other side.
Excellent all round. The usual prompt and supportive response from the support team and Mel herself.
Melanie is a gift to the world. Her healing, her generosity, compassion and kindness is limitless. She is the real deal.
Her Narcissist recovery was beyond helpful and this is even more so.
With firsthand experience I confirm Melanie Tonia Evans is affluent in the knowledge of narcissists due to the fact she is one. Her self narcissistic knowledge is what she uses to drag you in. She continually seeks association with fresh people able to repetitively spruik promotion of her unlicensed methods of counselling, on her behalf. For years she has been the equivalent of listening to lengthy broken record played over and over again. Do not fall for her self blame model which includes "you attracted this to heal your inner wounds, or you attracted this because of your souls failings in past lives". The plain fact is, you go to school to learn the basic skills in life. Schools don't provide teachings on the psychology and tactics of narcissism and this is the only thing you personally need to learn to protect yourself and strengthen. Humans can only tangibly concentrate on this life, not fix any unknown ideology of past lives.
IMPORTANT, PLEASE NOTE: For a long period, she has received benefits for services rendered from being in contact with the narcissist/narcissists of some of her victim clientele, to emotionally abuse them further on the narcissist's behalf.
BEWARE, the more information you give MTE about your personal situation, the more means she has to research you, to obtain personal reward from your perpetrating narcissist! Melanie pretends to want to help heal others. Her methodology originated not from her sole epiphany as she claims, but from studying pre-existing therapists/mentors, with which she adapted to her brand. Research this fact on the internet and you will see for yourself. She thrives, knowing you paid to consume weeks/months of your time listening to her lengthy repetitive modules which have nothing more factually to add than her free sample. She and her trained moderators disguise their words numerous ways, but the essence always is "If you don't emotionally heal from her modules, you are the problem and don't question us or you're out". This is standard cult like group scapegoat abuse 101, in the narcissistic hand book to protect the business model and make the victim feel further isolated for speaking the truth. Some MTE moderators are enabling MTE and should take a hard look at their scripted training. Moderators, please wake up! Think for yourself, have mindful moral decency, self-respect and respect for others. Some moderators have woken up and silently left MTE, many haven't.
ADVICE: complaining directly to MTE is rarely successful. Best proven practice is to:
1. Write/email your honest dot pointed complaint simply, without malice and request a delivery receipt from MTE.
2. Keep records of all correspondence, their response and their actions taken.
3. Instantly disassociate from Melanie and her brand if their response is bland, inappropriate or traumatising. Be very careful not to get dragged into their confusing spiral back and forth, latent with innuendo to provoke an emotional reaction from you. They know exactly which emotional buttons to push.
NEXT STEP: Together, stand up, collate your abusive experiences with MTE, speak up and present them to authorities to have her debunked and removed publicly! Many have not had the strength remaining to do so, after MTE's underhanded emotional attacks. If this is you, know you are not alone! INSTEAD, NOW, TAKE YOUR POWER BACK! Do not allow MTE to kick you again while you are already down. Many countries have a Code of Conduct for unregistered health care workers who's governing bodies you can make a formal complaint. If you are from another country, please also make a complaint in Australia. Write a letter to the Editor of the State newspaper in Victoria and Queensland and write a letter to televised news services such as "A Current Affair" in Australia. Plus, report your experience on sites such as this. Collectively this MTE unscrupulous behaviour can be stopped to protect the emotional wellbeing of current and future victims that may be negatively affected by her controlling methodology.
To the people who are happy with MTE services, that's great, her victims would be glad you feel you have not been affected in this way, but please know there are many of her other clients that have been severely traumatised! Please do not protect or speak publicly for MTE in these cases that you personally do not have the factual information about and risk your own integrity by becoming an MTE enabler. Please be thankful you were not personally affected and let MTE fight her own battles and take personal responsibility and accountability for her self and her trained teams actions on these factual accounts.
On line help available at any time. I found the site at 3 am while having a meltdown, thanks to a narc.
Because the site had what I needed.
THINGS HAPPENED THAT PREVENTED ME FROM WATCHING THE SHIFTS TILL NOW. I AM LOOKING FORWARD THE NEXT ONE!
I AM A MEMBER SINCE 2019
It's a new experience for me it's so useful to get out of bad situations. Thanks
By my therapist advice.
EDIT:
I would like to upgrade my review.
I was very hurt at the curt dismissal of my situation by the people I considered the only genuine people of integrity I could respect and trust at a very difficult juncture in my life.
In hindsight, I can understand that Melanie could not have known the people infiltrating her business were toxic. It is not easy to understand or lend credence to tales of mob stalking and harassment as they are so hard to prove or even describe in concrete terms. I can see from her perspective receiving many emails from distressed people, it would have been difficult to form an accurate assessment.
I am updating my review as I do not feel I should penalize or lash out at Melanie and her team for the actions of the toxic individuals infesting and maliciously sabotaging every space they could (my site was blacklisted on FB, I was locked out of Facebook etc).
I firmly trust in God; He will deal with these toxic individuals in perfect divine timing.
However, in all fairness, I want to express deep gratitude to Melanie and team for NARP, ESC, FOO. I acknowledge that these offerings were instrumental in my healing, growth and were my go to meditations to reach within and heal myself, when I was abandoned by all and had myself and God alone, facing difficulties. NARP was my lifeline, and I express my deep gratitude.
I also learnt a great deal from Melanie's videos and articles, which I studied and took to the healings. I recently watched a video of Melanie's on YouTube, and was very happy to see her thriving and lovingly serving others. I feel she has up leveled a lot (as she said, she consistently does so). Anyway, I needed to express gratitude and goodwill to those who pretty much saved my life (Thank you GOD), and spread positivity in this world, especially towards those who are doing a great job helping others heal in a difficult world. Much respect.
Blessings
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The healings worked for me.
Products used:
FOO, NARP, ESC
I received NARP as a gift a few days after learning about narcissism at a very dark point in my life.
I felt it miraculously helped me. I later bought the TFOW and ESC courses as well.
Though I had learnt hypnosis, NLP, Emotion Code, Tapping etc this was the very first time ever that I had made my inner healing a top priority and devoted myself 100% with unconditional love to healing my trauma instead of suppressing it all and using tools to 'improve myself' and 'become more productive' etc.
I had hit rock bottom and threw everything I had at the task of healing. This include prayer, multiple books that I had bought, tapping, NLP, journalling, beating pillows, and most important prayer. I spent every waking moment applying the tools I had, healing clearing and adding more tools as I learnt about them.
My life transformed, and miraculously I bounced back and am thriving, thank you God.
IN HINDSIGHT
I cannot attribute this exclusively to NARP. Neither can I discount the efficacy of this program: it definitely helped me powerfully, especially at first. I know I threw everything I had at the task of healing and as I prayed God gifted me solutions, insights and tool after tool. One experienced healer who gave me regular sessions said (when I asked her what tools had worked for her clients over decades in the healing field): 'I cannot recommend any particular tool. If the person is ready and determined to heal, anything will work, and if they aren't, nothing will." This coach wasn't very particular about which tool I used. She helped me work on my inner being for a long period, which was powerful for me.
AVID MTE FAN
I don't do things by halves. I was a very enthusiastic promoter for NARP and MTE. I even applied to work for them creating content part time (I was instead offered a role to direct their marketing, which I was grateful for but turned down as I was exhausted and did not want that much responsibility. If I took a job I had to give it my all, and I just was too depleted at that time. My focus was healing myself). Despite that I loyally promoted her 'thriver mission' as I wanted to help others.
I made it a point to contribute any insights I had on the forum. I also had a routine of logging in every so often to find a new member who had similar issues, so I could encourage someone as a good deed. I felt strong loyalty and a need to pay it forward.
Anyway, I unsubscribed in 2019 from all MTE material. After being disillusioned on multiple fronts.
ISSUE
In addition to family narcs I realized I had other toxic people bothering me. I had put up a hobby website on natural probiotics and was active in marketing and entrepreneurship Facebook groups as I sought to upskill and find a career path forward for myself.
In Pakistan a woman raising children alone is not safe in any aspect of her life. Not reputation, not money, not home, nothing. People feel they can loot and deceive with impunity (to be fair, they do that to everyone. Ethics and morality are not a glaring hallmark of that culture.)
People were hacking stalking spying on harassing me in every imaginable way.
'Religous' women's groups (had joined religious groups thinking to get a positive social circle (haha)), 'religious' entrepreneurs' (I briefly had joined their FB groups) Pakistani entrepeneurs (as I progressed with my probiotics project), neighbours (small world, they monitored my progress). Collectively I refer to them as the RPDCs. (rat pig dog cockroaches). This describes their hypocritical, greedy, immoral, sneaking, stealing, spying toxicity. These strange made people had latched onto me like leeches as a vulnerable target to plunder.
These people were convinced they had to steal my probiotic business as I seemed to be doing a good job. Though I had no contact with any of them, it took me a while to realize how much I was hacked and monitored. (It is the ultimate 'peep at your neighbours' from behind the curtains' society, but with tech. Everyone entrenched in everyone else's business. Eww). They were looking for ways to exploit my activities.
When I joined NARP (and applied to work for them) these people decided that this must be another opportunity they had to get before I did, or some other crazy exploitative crab bucket scarcity jealous hater thinking that is very prevalent in Pakistan. Even my efforts to escape the pits of narc abuse were not exempt, these mad crazy people were monitoring my phone, home, movements to steal anything I achieved. I could write a book!
Anyway, to cut a long story short I became aware I was constantly watched and monitored. (A zillion pieces of evidence for this). They wanted to steal my 'probiotic millions' or whatever. Even when I was desparately seeking to heal my life and support my children by joining NARP and other resources online, these rats were intruding everywhere. I bought a boxing bag and was learning to box in my home. How did these spying rats know? Schadenfreude is a major part of the Paki psyche too, and they maliciously enjoyed watching a woman suffer alone while sabotaging and stealing my efforts to build a life. They never expected me to rise, move away and thrive, eluding their exploitation.
2019 onwards I continued to clean up my devices / accounts / activities of these hackers, it was a process. I also let go of my probiotic project I had started with God. I felt these greedy hackers could take it and do the hard work to build it up, and then hack and steal from each other to their heart's content, but I wanted nothing to do with them and their intrusion, exploitation, craziness etc, even if it meant jettisoning a cherished project.
These people seemed determined to monitor and 'get in first' with any project I might start. Highly crazy stuff seriously. Cannot count the number of unsolicited contacts from fake profiles, email addresses, numbers and what not I have had, despite changing addresses / numbers / accounts to be rid of these stalkers.
WHY AM I MENTIONING ALL THIS HERE?
2019 I realized that these ratpreneurs had joined NARP team in some capacity.
As MTE implemented Teachable, the Youtube videos had artificially inflated views (from hundreds of organic views with a video upload, to suddenly each video had 5k views on the first day!), excessive Photoshop, 'glitzy' marketing and multiple other indicators showed me these people were on the NARP team. I also saw a surge in Pakistanis posting on the forum (from zero). By a very strange coincidence, MTE, in her videos, mentioned an interest in "working in nutrition and health" and "boxing classes".
MTE herself emailed me asking to use my Thriver story on her site 'as she was very impressed by my progress'. In response I mentioned a need for privacy and mentioned a sense of the toxic people hacking stalking and following me to NARP. Partly to retain my privacy online and also to alert her.
I actually thought her response would be concern over the kind of people who had inflitrated her team and what that would mean for MTE and the members.
To my surprise my concerns were dismissed and I picked up increasing toxic energy from her (I no longer dismiss these powerful intuitions I have always had). I picked up some toxic denigrating innuendos. Apparently I was toxic for expressing my concerns. I would never have expected this unhealthy arrogant response from a mature person of integrity.
I did not want a fight this weird, I unsubscribed and did not look back, putting up daily energy boundaries to fend off toxic energy. It is not my business whom they choose to employ or work with, they have every right to do so. But from what I had experienced, I wouldn't touch these people with a ten foot pole.
I had spoken my truth, given MTE the opportunity to evaluate the situation. The response was dismissive and hostile. I accepted that and moved on, as I had a life to rebuild.
I would never click on any MTE links. I know these 'entrepreneurs' use malvertizing and malware links to infiltrate and monitor people as a modus operandi, 'to see what they could steal'. This is how the 'religious entrepreneurs' first got a foothold in my devices.
I do not know how many people they may have infected with their cyber intrusions.
Narcs are narcs. Rats are rats. You just walk away. What I could not fathom is how MTE had turned on me, who had caused her no harm, and had voluntarily devoted my time and effort as an enthusiastic supporter, the intention being to help others who had been through what I had. Her attitude did not seem healthy, even to me, a big fan.
I was shocked at how MTE dismissed the concerns of an avid supporter who was healing from narcissistic abuse and preferred the narrative of new team members who had come to NARP after me. It is, of course their right to decide. I am glad I walked away. There were intense attempts by ratpreneur vultures to infiltrate my life / online for whatever reason, which I continually blocked and ignored. I picked up intense vitriolic anger from MTE herself, which I had to shield myself from.
In writing this review I looked up a few MTE videos. I see that a prevailing theme in recent times has been 'narcissistic business partners' who 'steal passwords and other sensitive information' or 'are not in it for the long haul'. There has been a lot of that in her videos from 2020 it seems. I wonder what that is about.
Surely a person selling products to heal people from narc abuse would not be duped by narcissists! Or perhaps their vibe resonated with her. Anyway, it all had a very unpleasant inauthentic pushy feel. Toxic energy I received was like narc rage.
Marie Forleo interviews Elizabeth Gilbert, and at one point Elizabeth says she stays far away from people who 'claim to have all the answers', as honest people will acknowledge their imperfections. I remember thinking of MTE when I watched that, and then dismissed the thought. Perhaps, though.
I did pick up an arrogant denigrating vibe which shocked me at first as I had been nothing but an avid supporter expecting nothing but wanting to 'spread the Thriver mission'. (Double standards: If you go no contact with them, it is narcissistic. If they go no contact with you, it is self partnering). I was also shocked by the amount of vitriolic toxic energy I felt directed at me for a time. Who knows what narrative they were playing by.
I am sharing this as part of 'telling my story' and to bring my previous review up to date.
I have a lot of tools I have used to heal. Most important has been a connection with God.
NARP was there too, and I have expressed my gratitude and paid it forward.
But after this weird experience I would not trust MTE much. I also wonder now, if participating in her healings allows her to 'graft energy' from people.
Very grateful for whatever benefits I received though.
(NOTE. To post this I looked up my invoices. The ESC invoice and emails around this purchase had disappeared; for whatever reason the hackers had deleted them. I had corresponded with MTE multiple times regarding that purchase, but nothing in my inbox or sent mail. However, I had the Meltonia transactions on my bank statement as proof of purchase. Who knows what skewed story these crazy ratpreneurs were selling that required them meddling with my inbox like that.)
In conclusion, I found it useful to help me dig out of a hole. I was not impressed by MTE integrity, which is saddening. On the whole I have found a lot of solutions and am grateful for the journey, and for being rid of the RPDCs.
Tip for consumers:
There is a disclaimer in the small print at the bottom of the forum.
In short, if you heal, it is up to you to do the inner work. NARP is but one tool. It is not everything you will need. God plus you is enough, and there is help.
Products used:
NARP. TFOW. ESC
EDIT:
I would like to upgrade my review.
I was very hurt at the curt dismissal of my situation by the people I considered the only genuine people of integrity I could respect and trust at a very difficult juncture in my life.
In hindsight, I can understand that Melanie could not have known the people infiltrating her business were toxic. It is not easy to understand or lend credence to tales of mob stalking and harassment as they are so hard to prove or even describe in concrete terms. I can see from her perspective receiving many emails from distressed people, it would have been difficult to form an accurate assessment.
I am updating my review as I do not feel I should penalize or lash out at Melanie and her team for the actions of the toxic individuals infesting and maliciously sabotaging every space they could (my site was blacklisted on FB, I was locked out of Facebook etc).
I firmly trust in God; He will deal with these toxic individuals in perfect divine timing.
However, in all fairness, I want to express deep gratitude to Melanie and team for NARP, ESC, FOO. I acknowledge that these offerings were instrumental in my healing, growth and were my go to meditations to reach within and heal myself, when I was abandoned by all and had myself and God alone, facing difficulties. NARP was my lifeline, and I express my deep gratitude.
I also learnt a great deal from Melanie's videos and articles, which I studied and took to the healings. I recently watched a video of Melanie's on YouTube, and was very happy to see her thriving and lovingly serving others. I feel she has upleveled a lot (as she said, she consistently does so). Anyway, I needed to express gratitude and goodwill to those who pretty much saved my life (Thank you GOD).
Blessings____________________
Narcissistic (self absorbed, manipulative) people can wreak havoc on the people who fall for the wonderful image they project. If you are or have been in a relationship with someone who had multiple faces and drained you, have problems with relationships, depression, finances or health, don't understand why you seem to be unable to escape them (physically or in your head) then Melanie's tools and insights will help you. The most important thing to remember is that you are worth the healing, the self partnering and the journey within. Don't dismiss your symptoms, as I did, till you crash. Read up about it.
ME: I'm a single Mom to two lovely girls; despite having an outstanding IQ according to my teachers and school results, working hard and being told I am beautiful, I have faced tremendous problems in my personal life. Divorce, depression and bullying by my ex husband.
JOURNEY On a self-development journey, I've journalled, signed up for Tony Robbins, Robin Sharma programs, learnt and practiced NLP, Hypnosis, EFT, Kinesiology, lifted weights, done yoga, followed a healthy diet, used aromatherapy, and of course prayer. Everything is profoundly useful to me, and I am stronger and wiser. I've pushed myself to achieve: gain credentials, build my site, find clients, work round the clock, to 'succeed'. Yet inside, I felt a powerless wreck.
FINDING NARP I found Melanie's blog while searching for 'how to protect from oppressive parents' which led me to finding out about narcissistic mothers, which fit my mother to a T! I'll spare you the details, but I was reading about how to protect from black magic, as I could not understand the effect she had on my life, and I was so drained.
I found the article during this Google period: http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-make-the-narcissist-powerless-to-affect-your-life/ which lit a spark of hope, and reminded me to focus on building my inner being rather than killing myself working round the clock on work projects.
EXPERIENCE WITH MELANIE'S METHODS Anyway, as 2016 was winding down, I put everything on hold. I watched her videos, read her articles, signed up for her webinar, joined the webinar Facebook Group, journalled did the exercises she taught, and it was wonderful. I now understand that my surpressed anger and fear, repressed as I felt bad and guilty and strove to honor my mother, had sabotaged me, and that I had to acknowledge and embrace the truth of what had happened, set those terrors free, and build a true and authentic self rather squashing my 'unpleasant', 'politically incorrect' feelings down. I also realized that because I did not honor or acknowledge this part of my life experience, I married a narc husband, who chose to devalue and bully me as well. I could not understand why at the time.
We want to honor, love and respect our mothers / spouses, and it is very hard to understand that there are unconscious people who DELIBERATELY seek to harm others. Yet narcissists do exist. It is what it is, so best to understand that and deal with it, not hide from it or try to change them.
EFFECTS ON ME As I embraced my inner being during these exercises, I cried as I have not been able to do for years (focused on soldiering on and getting things done.) I feel happier and lighter, and the terror and panic that was always hovering around is far less. The 'it's over, I can't do it anymore, I give up' space gives way to hope, courage and peace.
I'm signed up for Melainie's NARP program. From what I've seen of her content, and from her thoughtful, insightful and loving posts and responses in the Facebook group, I just know she is authentic, has the tools I need and knows what she is talking about. I am choosing to invest in myself, honor myself, and build a new life. NARP is my roadmap to overcoming the abuse. Her program is very affordable, considering all the benefits I've already had!
God bless, and keep believing! You are worth it.
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Humble gratitude and respect for these healings. Many blessings to you all.
TIP: Make sure you DO the exercises, the journalling. I found myself crying, drained and avoiding the work (googling politics). But I kept returning to it, and I am so glad.. I have made these self partnering exercises part of my morning routine.
Products used:
NARP, FOO, ESC.
YouTube videos and blog articles
After years of struggling, confusion and terrible feeling of being the worst version of myself I have finally discovered that my marriage is a narccistic relationship with its all dark colors. And then my behavior, my thoughts and feelings made sense immediately! In my searches for help I found Quantum Freedom Healing and it resonated with me straight away. I trusted my intuition, joined NARP and started. I have completed module 1 and effects are amazing! I trust my body, I trust Melanie's voice and I feel better and better every day. I am very grateful for Melanie's priceless mission for leading us to our best selves.
1. My intuition
2. Melanie's holistic approach to healing
Summit code did not work, you fixed it thank you...
Have been following, and did the summit
It was a very quick and easy purchase and transaction.
I have been a customer of MTE for over 10 years, and come back to their products regularly as they help me enormously.
Don't let anymore of your life pass you by, get clued in and do the technique.
The program offer was superb
I like the product very much. Just started but I am going deeper every day. Thank you.
Like her work
All of my participation with MTE has been a positive and pleasant experience.
It was exactly what I needed.
I began my journey with Melanie Tonia Evans a few years ago when I began to do the NARP healing program. I was reeling after my third narcissistic break-up in 6 years and I realized that I had to clean-up my role in these relationships. I realized that the common denominator in all these situations was me. After I received the NARP program, I began using it obsessively because it allowed me to learn how to start soothing my own internal emotional wounds, immediately. It was a feeling I had never experienced before. Now, about four years later, I have come back to do the Self Empowerment course because while I have been able to keep narcissists out of my love life/personal space, I have been finding this energy is still in my professional space and I think there is some more work I need to do to turn my mindset around and to stop this energetic attachment for good. I have been on Module One for about a week, just kind of going in every few days with it, but WOW, I have already found some unhelpful beliefs that I can target to uproot and change. This program is awesome!
I chose Melanie because I found her videos on Youtube and her story resonated with what I had experienced in my relationships in the past.
I've decided to modify my review. Overall I have had a terrible experience on the forum, however, I think the course has something unique to offer, that I have not found anywhere else, and I would not want to sway someone from trying something that could help them.
I can't tell if this is effective in the long run. I've been using the healing sessions on and off for a few years. Sometimes I feel a lot better after a session, and it lasts, but on the whole, I have not achieved a massive breakthrough. Before doing this course I would not deal with problems, but focus on the doings. Sometimes I wonder if staying in that mindset would have brought me better results than diving into my past. Because it opened the door for negativity to come out.
I can tell you that sometimes it seems absolutely worth it, because I feel more connected to myself than before. But on the whole, it's hard to use digital recording for the healing of all of my problems. The same 1 hour recording over and over again cannot really substitute a human. But therapists would generally not use this technique, so this may be your only way to access it. So here we go, this is my balanced and updated review, and you can see the original one bellow. I wish you well and overall I would recommend you give this course a try.
For my review I would simply re-post what another user wrote very eloquently, which matches my own experience. Object to anything that the mods do, and you get blamed using the "healing process". You figure out for yourself whether or not the use of a person's trust in a healing process to shame them into not voicing their objections is healthy for the person or not.
I have not been able to use the course since my interaction with the forum 3 years ago, and what's worse is that the whole event damaged my ability to trust anyone who claims to offer healing.
For me personally, the whole thing started when I discussed the ideas of one of my favorite authors. One of the mods hated her and wrote a long post explaining why she is terrible and essentially diagnosed her as a narcissist. When I objected to the way they replied and said that it was closing the door on the discussion of the ideas I brought up, my post was removed and I was put on probation. An email was sent to me informing me that I need to do healing to solve the issue of why I manifested the whole interaction.
I have been using the modules really well up until that point, but I also have my BS radar. And when someone just turns all the blame on my in the disguise of a healing guru, I can't proceed with it.
2 years later I wrote her staff again, asking for help and explaining that since the event I have not been able to use the modules. No one bothered to address what I brought up. And even writing this now I already know that any reply I might get from Melanie or her staff would be more of the same - blame.
So, even though I believe in her methods, overall I am giving this one star because I think that this message needs to be heard. Here is a re-post of one of the other reviews here which I think explain the issue very well.
"Sadly, some of the moderators (especially the more active ones), while well meaning I'm sure, are no where qualified to be on the forum and interact with distraught, frightened people struggling with real trauma and upheaval. An emotionally abused person may sometimes say things in a way that a therapist will understand is not a personal attack but just a deeply confused person trying to ask for help; but put an unqualified person who does not know how to give others the benefit of the doubt and you have some real ego-driven people who lash out at the slightest question of their "moderation authority". Some moderators are downright dangerous if they feel you cross them (say by questioning a decision) and then you are on their "radar" which I found very traumatising. They will then start to nitpick on your posts (which may have been fine for weeks or months before) and will make you rewrite them again and again for "violating the CoC", until you start to lose faith in yourself and blame yourself - as most Narc abused people are already used to thinking abuse is their fault, this a very real possibility that healthier people would not be subject to. I figured later this behaviour on the part of moderators exists because there must have been some really difficult/abusive people on the forum who the moderators may have had previous experience with, but it has caused a few of them to get a hair trigger mentality on even a simply worded question.
Also, Being blind to their own prejudices (there are people from all over the world on this forum, and even a basic knowledge of different cultures will tell you that what is normal for someone may be rude for another), I essentially felt traumatised by a few of the forum moderators, who for some reason decided to pick on me after my one mistake (which I admit was a poorly worded post written while I was sobbing and terrified of how raw I was feeling). After I was pulled up, I ended up feeling frightened to even post, second and third guessing myself until I was weeping with the fear of my own writing being the problem. Why? Because with my history of Narc abuse, I blamed myself even when I shouldn't have. With Non qualified people having been elevated to positions of importance in the forum by Melanie herself, I truly got to experience what the saying "power corrupts" means. Scary.
Melanie does not pay or objectively judge the people selected to be moderators, which is of course a business decision, but a potentially harmful one to her forum users, and was personally devastating to me after months of interacting with no problems on the forum. From what I can now tell, people are selected to be moderators based on their ability to guide others on using the NARP program, but primarily on how much success they achieve with the program and how well they "heal" using NARP. In other words, if you are a Success Story on NARP and don't question Melanie's philosophy that it must be used the same way every day for every single person, then you get to be moderator. On the surface this may seem perfectly logical and harmless, but as I discovered, this is deadly! To select people without proper qualification and to not offer any pay (which means Melanie is dependant on THEIR volunteering, and will therefore not rock the boat because that saves her the extra time to have to moderate the forum herself), is a very dangerous precedent."
Tip for consumers:
Know not to trust the forum to be a safe place to share your own thoughts if they do not match the mod's opinions. Don't expect Melanie to be a perfect person the way you envision her based on her videos. Expect her to be a human like the rest of us - someone who is not usually good at processing criticism.
This way you get less burnt.
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In the cader of reemerging Complex PTSD Ive joined your program in the hope of specifically treating these symptoms and regaining a more manageable life.
After being in 12 step programs for a decade and my life becoming much more manageable, the sickness and death of my father brought on another extreme wave of PTSD. I have followed Melanies work for some years now with my newer awareness surrounding sex and love addiction and codependency. I found her work much deeper on the specifics of narcisitic abuse and being love addicted to a narcisist. I had huge identification. I was recently recommended to engage in some more trauma specific therapy. Upon reseaching and assessing several different approaches including EMDR,, Bioenergy, Shamanic energy medicine, and Internal family systems, I tried Melanies workshop in which she gave some deeper insight and guidance to how her program worked and her tools. I was impressed at the effect, depth and combination of therapeutic tools she incorporated skillfully in a meditative session. Im now quaranteened at home with my dear son who has vulnerabilities. I am grateful to be with him as mum and his fulltime carer again in these uncertain times. This has thrown my plans fordeeper therapyin the air.
My huge thanks and sincerest gratitude to Melanie and the team. It is such a gift to be able to use your program and have full access to the forum and all. I am so glad as this is now one of the few remaining therapeutic treatments available to me still when all others have become inaccessible.
Now may not be the most appropriate time to engage in deep healing work, with my son in close quarters at home in isolation, I will however use what i can for now as recommended and maybe connecting on the forum may be a start. Knowing that as and when I'm better able to start the full programme I have this impressive programme to hand is reassuring. I will be connecting with family online this week and despite the current circumstances,(i. E Covid 19 crises) the issues im dealing with are ever present in my life and family and Im aware, until i release these and heal them in my system they will continue to disturb and distress me. Having this programme to turn to online and on my computer, in my own time, pace and space is a reassurance to me as a source of support in challenging times.
I have done over 30 years of consistent therapy, the last 24 years focussed on trauma. Ive explored many different therapeutic approaches for long periods of time including quatnum healing and energetic /spiritual approaches. Ive had great results in the last 10 yeas of being in CODA and SLAA 12 step recovery programmes and Mindfullness of Self Compassion. I notice a familiarity of approaches and a very clever use of many helpful healing modalities including the "soul Retrieval ", compassionate focus and inner child work.
I am enthusiastic about your particular "blend" of approaches. In trying it out in a workshop and again starting the module I noticed its familiarity and guidance, its holding and sequence - "sat " very well with me and felt manageable and right.
I'm focussing on this life long but most prominent area in my life present and coming up for healing today.-Ive started the process of "Breaking silence " with my family surrounding the childhood sexual abuse I recieved from our father (also an extreme narcisist). For which I feel your programme may be particularly helpfful. Thank you Melanie and Team. When suffering with devasting symptoms it is fantastic to know there is a solution, and a way that others have experienced back to peace of mind and. To ease the suffering.
Kindness
Peace
Very interesting and helpful thank goodness someone is trying to help
Need the help narccissm is a terrible affliction on society as these people are ill, but god is watching them
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