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Ive been using AdultswithBenefits for well over a year now and plan to keep doing so. Ive seen it change a bit in that time and really like most things about it. Ive tried other sites too; some great alternatives like HookupHangout and some not so great ones, like tinder!! But overall im happy where I am and find that most of the women are genuine and up for a bit of naughty chat!
Very clever idea, but lack of members in my location.
i indeed liked the voting and hopefully the site will get bigger in my area soon. if there are more people in your location then you are lucky. If not, try FLIRTYDATER.com - it is a nice alternative for me. Shame it doesn't have the same concept :(
Happy with adultswithbenefits as ive had three dates and although id prefer more I have to be realistic (I did manage three in one month with HookupHangout.com at the end of last year, my current record!) One of the girls on adultswithbenefits met me in a hotel so dont need to go into detail but that was a GREAT night. The other two were more like first meetings to see if we liked each other. One of them hasnt replied since but the latest said she wants to meet me again, so well see how that goes. She was pretty nice so im keen! Thats what its all about after all and reading these reviews I can see some people havent had any in-person meetings at all (I know theres a lot of sex chat but I dont count that) so I think im doing alright.
Free to create a profile but 3 members have to review your profile and approve before you can upgrade. This is s new twist. Of course you will get voted in, they have to if they want to scam you into a paid membership. Once approved, here come the winks and messages. Now pull out the cc, watch the membership you pay for, they have the longest most expensive already checked. Now answer your messages. You can actually see when they are online, and they are, so say "Hi" soon they are off line. The next day they are online again, but no message. It is 3 to 5 days before the employee has time to get to your message. By the 2nd reply, 7 to 10 days they are interested in meeting, so choose a date and place. They eill not reply until after the date you chose. So, in short, just another typical date site, "A TOTAL SCAM!"
Looked encouraging as the way the site brands itself "you probably won't get in" becasue mwmwbrs are voted in. Better sounding was that there is supposed to be an equal number of male and female members.
Most of the profiles in my area are "digital lovers", meaning they're fake. They're used to entice you into paying for full membership so that you can interact with all the women in your area. Funny, none of them were in the largest conce tration of people, instead theybwere 5-20 miles away. The site has no capability to interact except through the sites email system and you can't read or send email unless you pay for full membership.
The replies you get are invariably 1 or at most 2 sentence replies and frequently are tangential to the one they are " responding " to. Sensing a rat, I had provided my off site email to one female member. Strangely, the reply came from a different profile.
There may be other reviewing sites where people give glowing reviews of this site. I don't know which site they are referring to as this is clearly nothing more than a clever scam.
Complete scam! My experience is the same as the others. I was signed up as a non-paying member without my knowledge, then at once started receiving messages from women saying they wanted to meet me. After I sent in the $30, those messages stopped immediately and nobody responded to any of my messages.
Tried the site several times, hoping it was real. I found that the only time I ever received a message was just after my subscription expired, then had to pay again only to reply to fake or non existent members. When I tried to make contact with someone, my messages went unread for months befor being deleted. Total Scam!
Gotta agree with Mitchell. I'm convinced the site is a well-done scam. I actually believe that their real purpose may be data-mining. The "girls" ask inane questions like, "What's more important: Being honest or being on time?" Things that are only valuable to someone trying to build a personality profile. I also believe that their in-site mail is delayed and gone through. Conversations take MONTHS, and then go nowhere. They show when someone is "online" but provide no chat function or anything like that to actually make a real connection. I don't believe anyone ever actually meets anyone there. Responses to messages often ignore direct questions entirely, or have no relationship to what was asked. (e.g. "So, if your profile says you're 47 miles away, and your bio says you only want someone in your immediate area, why are you reaching out to me?" Response: "Hahahaha. So do you like the color red?")
I have paid for access to this website for more than three days and I cannot get ANYONE to respond to my texts or emails, even when I can see they are LIVE and online. I don't believe it's the options I chose when setting up my account; so I'd say this site is a sham, reimburse me and prove me wrong, just for a month.
Nice site, I tried it despite mixed reviews and enjoyed it. There are no frills, no silly cam girls, no gimmicks. Just straight hookup culture in a design and feel that reminds me of okcupid. Not sleazy at all.
SCAM. Almost all of the profiles in my area were fakes. They're just really clever with how they make the profiles (multiple pictures, long descriptions). When sending a message, the responses you get are very generic or they don't make any sense in accordance to the message that you sent. Save your money, and use a free dating site.
I signed up with adultswithbenefits.com and was on it for a long while...liked the first few weeks, it was a rush really, a clean site non of that porn advertisement $#*!, non of that flash commercial $#*!, very clean I tell you!
The second I got an email saying I had been voted in...I paid for a month or it might have been three months just because the damn site does look clean man....anyways, I got in, sent out a $#*!load of messages to the girls in the Edmonton area.
In summary, this is a good site if your city is not big enough e.g. Edmonton only got like 800,000 human beings or maybe that includes cats and dogs, anyway, less than that, haha, then you'll get a smaller selection.
Very mixed site and unique for what it does. First the good news: the voting removes a lot of the nigerian scammers (who we are all very familiar with if you've ever been on any adult themed dating site) and there are no obnoxious cam girls.
Now the bad news: it's a small site and like many small, niche sites you're limited if you are outside the sweet spot of 21-35 years old. For a older dater like me you'll be down to 5-10 matches in most areas.
And finally the synopsis: I have met two people in the month I've been a member which is better than I've done on any other hookup sites. All-in-all it is worth the time and effort.
The site doesn't have a chat function. You can message, but a lot of the girls are slow to respond. I'm pretty sure some of the girls are bots, but I have met up a few girls so its not a complete scam. And the fake ones are pretty easy to spot. Overall its a decent site, it just doesn't have the same features the other sites do. Also, you can't send photos to other members! wtf?
This site uses fake profiles, check the Terms of Service. They call them 'Digital Lovers'. You can request they disable these accounts for you. I learned that all of the accounts in my area were fake, but I was told I would be refunded my subscription.
I can't say much about the site other than that, but at least these folks are honest. Zoosk (Just one example) makes no mention of fake profiles, but the site definitely uses them.
Do NOT trust the other positive reviews of this site. Before I explain, let me say that I am in my late 20's, I'm very attractive, muscular, and I am pretty adept at creating a clever profile and sending effective messages. I've had plenty of success on sites that are notoriously hard to get action (ashleymadison). I don't say that to brag, but just to emphasize that I'm not some hairy, chubby guy sending "hey, wanna hook up?" messages.
Here's the truth from an experienced user of a few of these websites: this is a total scam. As far as I can tell, this site has zero real women on it. I have yet to receive a real reply or an email outside of the site's messaging service. When I ask specific questions, I get very vague, generic responses that barely even make sense. It's obvious that I've just been communicating with bots. Very frustrating. There are a lot of attractive female profiles on the site. Unfortunately, they're all fake.
I will say that this site has done an exceptionally good job of making it seem real. The profiles are not obvious fakes like the ones on other sites. I've gotten pretty good at spotting fake profiles and scam sites, but I have to say this one got me hook, line, and sinker. The profiles def look real and there is a good mix of women from the entire attractiveness spectrum. They've also been very thorough in writing fake reviews on sites like this one to promote their brand. But again, this site is a complete SCAM and filled with bots. If I were tech-savy enough to launch a major cyber attack on some of these sites, I would.
interesting concept, though not too many members in my area. i liked the voting thing and hopefully it will grow and get bigger in my area. if there are more people in your area then you are lucky.
I ended up joining this site while doing a bit of "catfish" on an individual from another site who recommended it. That person ended up deleting their profile on the other site, but is still on this site. This is the second site of this type I've joined where you seem to be enticed to join, and once you're in, things change a bit. I did join for a discounted longer term, and will report back via this site my overall final experience. I will say I do have my doubts, but it is possible real people may exist behind some of the profiles. Time will tell, and so will I.
With any site like this you have to go in with a healthy amount of skepticism. The voting thing seemed cool, took me about a week to get in (I think you need like 10 votes from members or something) and I had a couple of the women who voted actually write me when I got in. But, they weren't very pretty. As far as attractiveness, the site's sort of a mixed bag. There seems to be a lot of young girls, and Im 43, but whatever. I've had some success connecting with women my age, just wish there was a chat feature, so 4 out of 5.
This site is nothing but a scam and fraud they have nothing but fake profiles on there. Stay away from this website.
good site, nice people and the girls are pretty friendly. definitely an A+ as far as hookup sites go.
very decent site, for once a site that doesn't have 1000 guys to every 1 girl, so you have a chance at a response!
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After waiting about 4 weeks to get in, I finally got a slot at adultswithbenefits. It's pretty good because they control the numbers of guys so the girls don't get spammed. Protects both the girls and allows the guys to get a $#*!ing reply for once!
I've done pof.com, match, aff and a few others -- this is the first where I've gotten replies and seem to be having some luck. I'll keep updated, but I have a good feeling about this one.
Wait sucked, but worth it.
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